Boyfriend lost interest in sex?

Question

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, but recently he has lost interest in doing more intimate things with me,I have asked him but he shrugs it off what do I do if I stay or do I cut my losses and go? help me thanks

Answer 1

Viagra and Kama sutra book, then tease him for a week

Answer 2

Try to work it out - spice things up ...some new lingerie or new places and positions. Is he on any new medication or under a lot of stress. After three years, sex in a relationship can die down - that is normal and we all have to try to find new ways to keep it interesting if that is what the problem is.

Maybe he is under some pressure at work or depressed - both of these could cause this but don't assume it is you - something that you did or anything like that - this has to do with him. If he was into you before, odds are he still is but something is making it die down somehow.

If this were reversed and you were not interested for some time, I am sure you wouldn't want him to leave you based on just the sexual aspect of your relationship with him. Relationships are about being there with and for someone through ups and downs - getting through tough times together and being stronger because of it.. Instead of trying to talk about that so much, see if something else is wrong that may be causing this -try some new things or ask him about any fantasies that he may have.

Just remember that most people go through this - after a few years if not before but if you really love him, you would not leave - you would work through this with him. :o)

Answer 3

depends if you really truly love him, if so then you should become more creative, and approach him with new things, also dont talk about it all the time, dont make him feel like it is something he has to do, don t make it look like it is a job he has to do, when a man feels that it is something he has to do, it disscourages him, and he will eventully start to wonder off. Women today have become more aggreesive in this feild, they know what they want , how they want it , and how many times. Men have always been the hunters, we are not used to be hunted. There is no fun going hunting for deer, and when u arrive at the forest u see the deer waiting there and ready to jump into the jeep, if we don t walk through the woods, planning our attack, searching , aiming, shooting, missing, and finaly killing , there is the fun , the achievment. That is what gets our blood rushing to all the right places. Yes today women are as equal as men and as successfull as men in the work force, but please leave a little of sport in our lives, leave us keep our manhood, for the good of both of us. If you dont love him, then it is best you move on. Makes no sense being unhappy

Answer 4

Is there anything else going on in his life ? Stress is a major passion-killer; is he worried about debts ? Losing his job ? A parent or sibling's illness ? It could be any one of a hundred things.

All the messages saying he is cheating may have a point; this could be the case. However it may not be the case & if you walk away ten you have thrown away something that survived three years & maybe could have been really long term.

Sorry hon, but you have to get him to talk about it. Tell him you don't feel as loved & you just want the two of you to be happy & try not to make any ultimatums.

Good luck.

Answer 5

Guys get comfortable after dating for a while! Believe or not guys aren't a sex crazed as they try to be! My boyfriend is the same way because we been together for five years. I'm more sex crazed than him! So all you can do is spice things up, if that doesn't work he might be getting it somewhere else! Good Luck!

Answer 6

A couple went to a doctor for consultation. The wife complained that her husband had lost interest in sex. The doctor requested the lady to wait outside and had a counselling session with the husband. The couple returned home and since that night the husband's sex activity was superb. But one thing, before coming to bed, he will rush to the bath room and spend sometime there. Once he was in bed, he was thorough. The wife was happy but little bit curious about his behaviour of rushing to the bath room before coming to bed. Out of curiosity, one day she peeped thro' the ventilator when he rushed into the bath room. There he was standing in front of the mirror, consoling himself: "She is not my wife, she is not my wife...."

The moral of the story is that, you should be versatile in bed as most of the other answerers have advised you. Good Luck!

Answer 7

Apparently sex is not the be all and end all to a good relationship (well it helps) it wont get any better from here on in if you want to stay with him you will have to put up with it I’m afraid go out and get someone else if you marry this bloke it wont get any better trust me.

Answer 8

Look him in the eye and tell him he's not doin it for you enough and you want to know why. Tell him if he has a problem you are willing to help but you can't if he shuts you out. If he will not let you in then tell him that you can not live this way. If you don't have any kids between you then it might be best to go.

Answer 9

i,ve been having the samer problem wioth my girlfriend where she seems to have lost interest. the first thing to answer is how important this is for you Now. Its something that is going on right now for you both. its a symptom of somehting thats going on in the reltionship and coming out in the form of this issue. You need to talk with him and say how you feel, what is going on for you..start with 'i feel' and 'you are' sentences. Gret to the bottom of it. maybe it is nothing to do with you...! perhaps you need a break to sort your feeelings and see what is important to you.good luck!

Answer 10

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Answer 11

if it has gotten to the point to where he doesnt even want to communicate with you anymore...then it's definitely time for you to go...communication is the key...and without that you have nothing...i already know what your thinking?? when it comes to him not wanting to have sex with you (could he be getting it from somewhere else) hey! you never know...you could try talking to him one more time about his strange behavior...if he continues to shrug it off...then you shrug him off and find someone who will appreciate you..