When you first get together you can't get enough of each other. Then once he hits 30 things slow down. Once he hits 40 your lucky to get 3 seconds of his time and wonder if anything just happened anyway? What is with that?
2006-10-06 21:14:17 · 6 answers · asked by Stefbear 5 in Health ➔ Men's Health
It's hard to know what the problem is without knowing you and your husband. There can be medical problems with your husband that he either doesn't talk about or maybe doesn't know about. His testosterone could be low and if so, there is medication to bring it up to normal.
He could be having some problems with Erectile Dysfunction and thinking it is just normal aging - it's not and there are medications for that as well. He would be surprised at how well they work.
If there is no medical problem, there are psychological issues that can cause lack of sexual interest and less desire to be with you. The biggest culprit in this area is unexpressed and unresolved anger issues. Everyone gets angry every day with something. If anger is not verbally expressed in an effective way, resentments are formed and result in distance in the relationship. If there are years of resentments built up, usually a marriage counselor is needed to help with this.
Another thing that can happen is that with children and career, each spouse can build separate lives, and then when the children are older the distance is really noticed. This can be helped, but usually a counselor is needed here also. In this case a counselor is needed who values staying married, otherwise they might not help, just suggest divorce. Actually, this is needed in every case!
2006-10-06 22:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have to do something to get his attention and make hime remember what attracted him to you in the first place. Let him come home to a hot meal and desert in the living room of whipped cream and lots of commotion!!!! Do things to him that would make you angry if some other woman did to him and made you jealous. That is probably what he wishes you would do anyway.
2006-10-07 04:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by marilee w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I never experienced that, so can not relate. Maybe you need more romance, talking and just understanding each others needs will help.
2006-10-07 04:19:16 · answer #3 · answered by perrisgal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
priorities...maturity... maybe the little bit of frequent errectile disfunction is embarrassing to them..so they figure the less they have sex..the less they will ahve to deal with the disfunction of thier penis'
2006-10-07 04:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
still great for me at 58
2006-10-07 05:27:29 · answer #5 · answered by patricia b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his testosterone may be on the decline, making him want sex less often
2006-10-07 05:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋