My father saise this what is your take on it and what should i do?

Question

My father has become increasingly mean with the steriods he is taking. He continuly threatens to kick me out by calling the cops and even told me i dont mean nothing. I know he loves me and the things he is saying has something to do with the steroids he is taking due to lung cancer. I am 24 and yes i should be out on my own I understand this. However In omaha if you do not have a degree you may make a slim pickings of 1200 a month in order to keep what is considered a high paying job when not educated at the rate of 9.27 an hour i need a car. I have one but the problem is 80 for insurance 300 food gas a month with gas being high, then rent, and other bills not including things that arent needed cable phone and such it costs me around 915 a month leaving me around 280 dollars left over. My option is to get a second job but how can i do that i already work overtime and i go to school full time. Its not like i am trying to be a bumb but reality says what if my car breaks down?

i can always find a cheap place with a roomate but my biggest fear is what ifs what if my roomate bails then i would have to drop out of school i dont want to do that i want to be able to finish so i dont have to live this life forever. What do you say i do as far as my relationship with my dad and suggestions on situations with moving?

cat lover i pay dad 300 a month i pay for my own food and i pay the electric bill i also pay for my insurance and all other cost of living do i help around the house? I use to but i rather not help someone who is going to be mean to me every moment i try to stay away even spend the night with my sister as far as the china thing. Its not because i cant find a women here its because i like the culture they bring not the rules of china itself. I like the respect i guess i could find a nice chinese right here at home. But as far as dad ya i dont help out much because well he is so mean i mean really really mean so i stay away as much as possable i would like to enjoy life with him before he goes but this has become imposable as we may be watching a football game together and twenty minutes into it he trys to find a reason to bit*h i dont know what else to do

Answer 1

I had an answer for you, but I see you have another open question---you wonder how you can find a wife from China. What is going on with you! If you can't support yourself now, how could you possibly support a wife? And why do you have to have a girl from China? I am not against Chinese girls! But some of the women who join the dating services are just looking for a way to get to the U.S. They will tell you just what you want to hear. Once in this country, they change. So be very leery of that.

Forget the wife for now! Date some girls from your area. I am glad you want to better yourself by going to school and getting a good education. Your dad is going through a rough time with lung cancer. Are you paying him some rent? Do you help around the house? Are you paying for your own food? Do you help cook some meals? These are all questions that you need to answer. If you are just taking advantage of your dad, then maybe he has good reason to want to kick you out!

On the other hand, if you are doing these things, and feel that you are being supportive of your dad with his illness, can you talk to his doctor and see if he has some ideas as to how you can cope with your dad's anger towards you? You need to talk to someone about it, because if you are going to live there, you need to learn how to deal with it.

Finish school and get that good job, and then think about getting married! You are young yet---don't be in such a hurry to find a wife. I'm sure your dad loves you. Illness sometimes makes a person say things they really don't mean. Talk to him and tell him you are trying to make something of yourself so he can be proud of you.

Good luck and keep your chin up!

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That's good you are paying your share! You sound like you are trying. Please find some professional--preferably your dad's doctor--to give you some advice on how to live more peacefully with him. If not the doctor, then someone who can help you to cope with all of this. I don't blame you for not wanting to be around him when he is so mean. You understanding it's the steroids is another good thing.

I'm sorry if I sounded harsh before! But I wasn't sure just how things were. Keep trying, and do find someone to give you advice. Your dad needs you, whether HE realizes it or not! I'm hoping you can work things out. When he's gone, you will be glad you did!

I still say good luck, and I'm wishing the best for you!

Answer 2

Yes it is more than likely the Steroids, just kind of tip toe around Dad for awhile. Try to do what he needs for you to do and kind of fade off into the background afterward, Don't drop out of school, that's how you will secure a good job that will allow you more funds, you are not being a bum, you work and go to school, if Dad gets too bad, just reassure him you love him and that you are there if he needs you...Good Luck and God Bless you!!

Answer 3

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Answer 4

sounds like ur dad has roid rage(anger caused by steroids) you need to stay in school get a part time job and stay outta the house as much as possible if its possible find a trustworthy friend to room with. try to go to places like the dollar store to stock up on things like ramen noodles pop and stuff it much cheaper and so are second hand shops for clothes dishes and everything..