I was planning to tell my cheating husband that I m filing for divorce when he told me that he might lost his job soon. Shd I
1. Hold the filing and wait till his work issue is settled. He have treated n my boy generally okay n I don want to hit him when he is down.
2. Go ahead n file but Wait till his work issue is settled b4 telling him. But he might get a letter soon if I do that
3. Go ahead n file n tell him. No time is a good time.
4. Any other way?
Paper work are ready at the lawyers, just need me to give the go ahead.
2006-10-06 20:14:49 · 20 answers · asked by peaceful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hope to give this the best chance of a amicable divorce as I have a 1 year old boy who is very fond of his father. Worry he may be affected if our relationship is nasty after divorce.
2006-10-06 20:42:41 · update #1
I disagree with the general opions posted.
Obviously you want out but you do have some feelings left considering your past experience and your overall treatment cheating aside.
I would try and give him a little time to get on his feet again because he will need a job and money to support himself once you split. However don't wait too long so he abuses your support and presence or feels the cheating is no longer an issue.
I think this will show respect for what you once shared even though it is over and demonstrate to your son that you can be generous to those who hurt you when it is the right thing to do and that no matter what happens you treat your spouse and his father with dignity.
It is good life lesson for your son overall even though he may not be old enough to understand right now. Treating another human with some respect and support regardless of differences when they need it is never a bad thing as long as you don't become a doormat.
It may set a better tone for your divorce and mean your relationship will be amiable and supportive for your child long term instead of spiteful and full of hate.
2006-10-06 20:39:44 · answer #1 · answered by Answerkeeper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have decided to divorce there is only one thing left to do before the go ahead. Look into your son's eyes, then do it. It is not about your husband or you really. You're the ones who made the mistake, but the kid is the one who has to pay. Is salvaging whats left of your life at your kid's expense your idea of a solution? Be absolutely sure you have done everything to the best of your ability to try and save your marriage before you decide that it is the best thing to do under the circumstances. Remember if you consider separation as an option, it is your son who will benefit most if you reconcile eventually with your husband. If you think that is not possible, then look into your child's eyes and ask if he deserves what is about to happen to his life. Your answer will lie there. It is his readiness that you should be concerned about and not your husband's or even your own. Don't let the wisdom of strangers come to the rescue of your child, to voice your child's cry of help at a time when he can't speak for himself. Instead let his little body find the secure embrace of his biological parents for as long as it is possible.
2006-10-07 02:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So there will Not be an altercation, I think that is a reasonable idea. I think you should go visit family, or a good friend until you file legal documents, If you do not want to send the letter after all You can ask your Attorney to do so, send the letter. Most people use their attorney, Once they've decided Divorce is what they want.GB-you.
2016-03-18 06:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he obviously doesn't love you since he cheated on you, so why would you still be with him. Find yourself a new place (apartment or a good friend to stay with until you find a home or apartment) and then send him the divorce papers. Him loosing his job isn't your problem and he'll find something else if it happens. Get yourself together and let him worry about his self.
2006-10-06 21:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by bucksolutions1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's cheating on you? Go tell him to go stay with his girlfriend and get help from her... Don't put up with that crap. File for divorce and put an end to your misery. Don't try to work things out with him no matter what - he broke the vows and in spirit the marraige has already been disolved. God Bless you.
2006-10-07 11:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thinking? Quick, file right away. If he loses his job after you file, you can claim that he deliberately quit -- to avoid child support or spousal support liability. You already said he's a cheater. Let HIM live with the consequences.
But then again, you wouldn't want him to get a double-whammy would you?? Maybe he'll stop cheating if he stops working so hard.
2006-10-06 20:44:46 · answer #6 · answered by Stephen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The vows were broken and the deal is no longer sealed. You need to go ahead and make a move. You can still love him though and support him, but you need to move on. He has made his decision and you can't continue to live with someone who cheats because that is a very bad feeling. I would serve him and move on.
2006-10-06 20:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by keemster05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like the song, its never a right time to say goodbye , but I have to go cause if I dont you going start hating me lol, sweetie do what you have to do there is no use in waiting, he was not thinking about you when he was sleeping and screwing someone else
2006-10-06 20:20:25 · answer #8 · answered by kalela L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't delay on an issue like this. If it's what you want - just do it now. Why put yourself thru the misery longer if you don't want to be there? Good luck!!
2006-10-06 20:18:39 · answer #9 · answered by Kimmer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either you WANT a divorce or you don't. If you do, then what are you waiting for?
2006-10-06 20:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋