I everybody, I need some suggestions. my wife is cheating on me, I have emails copies of the conversations.?

Question

How do I confront her.
Think also that I have a Kid with her that I love to death.

Answer 1

Well- the first thing you need to do is figure out if you want to save your marriage. But either way- you need to sit down at your house (have the kid with your parents or hers) and talk to her about things. Don't come in being angry but show that you are hurt. Tell her if you want to fix the marriage or if it's over. If it's over- try to keep all child issues calm so that you can see your child. Just remember that your child is the most important thing in the whole situation. Don't scream and yell- keep it to a talk so that she can be honest with you and you can be honest with her. Hope this helps a little.

Answer 2

Before you do anything, ask yourself this: "Can you forgive her?" Regardless of her response when you confront her, (which you need to do) that's what you need to decide. Because you don't want to resent her for the rest of your married life together if you can't. Be honest with yourself and realize you're human and have limitations. Some people let they're spouses cheat all the time and don't care so to speak. You have the answers to what kind of person you are. As to how to broach the subject, I'd say wait until your child is in bed for the night first off. If you think your confrontation will turn into a screaming match then maybe it's best for your child to stay with someone overnight. (family member etc.) The only way to to this is to be honest and blunt. Tell her flat out you know she's having an affair, you have documented proof, and then ask her what she has to say. Tell you don't want excuses, you want the truth as to why she felt the need to cheat on you. Also throw in there when given the chance:
"Did you ever stop to think about what this would do to our family?" All you can do at this point is watch her facial expressions, emotions, and sincerety. In the end you have the decision to stay or leave, but make it clear that you will NOT tolerate her cheating on you, even if you have to show some of your own feelings. Tell her how hurt you are, etc. Just because you're a guy doesn't mean that you can't show what you're feeling. I hope this helps you in some way shape or form. Good luck, and please let me know what happens.
Take Care.

Answer 3

You have to talk to her,so she will know that you are aware of what is going on.Show the emails to her.Make sure that your child is no where around to even hear this.To be honest,i wouldn't of let it went this far,after the first email,my mate would of been doing some heavy explaining!,But that is me and my opinion.Is your wife cheating by saying this threw email,or does it state that she has actually met someone in person and actions has taken place?You need to figure this out as well.If you truly love her and want your marriage to work,get to the root of the problem and go from there.However,there still is no excuse for a cheating mate in my eyes.Vows were spoken to love honor and cherish and obey,at least they were in mine and i honor them to the fullest.I am truly sorry for your grieve you must be going threw.The bottom line is totally up to you now.Do you stay and hope it never happens again or do you go and visit and provide for your child the best as possible?Once someone has betrayed another,it is sometimes hard to find and build the trust level back up,but it can be done if there is true deep love between you both.I wish you and your family the best and Good luck to you in your decision on what is best for all concerned!

Answer 4

IF I WERE IN YOR SITUATION,FIRST LET ME ASK AND THINK BEFORE YOU SAY,IF YOU TRUELY LOVE YOUR WIFE/IN LOVE AT THIS POINT DECIDE.YOU DO DECIDE TO CONFRONT HER, HOW WOULD YOUR ATTITUDE BE? HOW WOULD YOU ASK HER?HOW LONG HAS THIS BE GOING ON?SEE PEOPLE SEE AS BEING IGNORANT BECAUSE IF I DO SOMETHING,NO ,ATTER WHAT IT IS I AM HONEST WITH MY PARTNER ABOUT EVERYTHING NO MATTER WAH.AND MAKE SURE THAT, YOU REALLY WANT A TRUE ANWSER AFTER YOU WERE TO ASK HER.IF SHE IS AN HONEST PERSON,WHICH IF SHE HONEST SHE WOULD HAVE TOLD YOU FROM THE GET OR NEVER LET IT GET STARTED IN THNE FIRST PLACE UNLESS YOU WEREN'T DOING YOUR JOB AS A HUSBAND.ALSO IF YOU DON'T WANT TO BE WITH HER THEN YOU NEED TO END IT THERE "WORDS TO SAY BUT NICELY AND MEAN IT NO MATTER WHAT.DO NOT TURN BACK BECAUSE YOU NEED BETTER FOR YOU AS WELL AS YOUR CHILD.AND IF SHE HAS BEEN INVOVLED WITH THIS PERSON MORE THEN ONE TIME,THEN I FEEL YOU DON'T NEED SOMEONE THAT IS WITH NOT JUST YOU.GET CUSTODY OF YOUR CHILD FIRST,THEN TELL HER SHE NEEDS TO MOVE IN WITH THE GUY THAT THAT IS GOOD ENOUGH TO BE INVOLVED WITH THEN HE CAN TAKE CARE IF YOU . I HOPE THAT THIS WILL DO YOU GOOD.

Answer 5

Make copies of the emails and keep them for future reference (i.e.-an attorney). Confront your wife with this information and see what she says. If you can work on your relationship with a marriage counselor and save your marriage for the sake of you kid that would be good. If not, get an attorney and give him the copies of the emails as proof of her infidelity. You can seek joint custody or full custody if you can prove the infidelity. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 6

I am sory to know that. Better would be if you place the copies of email infront of her and talk to her politely. Tell her that you don't want to break the relation provided she doesn't cheat any more. I think you should give her a chance to amend herself.
Wish you all the best.

Answer 7

Put the evidence somewhere she will find it after kid has gone 2 bed with a note please explain prior to this try to have some sort of idea on what u want to happen from here so that u can communicate clearly with her what u want to happen

Sorry to hear that u r being cheated on and good luck

Answer 8

You go to her when your child isn't around and you ask her. If she denies it then show her your proof make copies for yourself in case you need them first. If you want to work it out then ask her why and see if you can works things out between you if not then take your proof see a lawyer and get a divorce. Go for custody of your child and keep your child out of any arguing that you and her may encounter.

Answer 9

Confront her with the evidence and get her side. Then make a decision to get out or not. But hear her out first.

Answer 10

You just ask her what is going on. if she says nothing, show her the proof you have.you can get her for adultry. Find you a good lawyer and fight for custody. you may also think about leaving her or kicking her out. you can always forgive her and try to work things out.