I need help on being romantic. I have never felt romantic. I just can't raise to that level for some reason. Please help me understand if it could be a medical problem or what. I have never been able to show anyone romance. Is it me or what? Help
2006-10-06 19:48:11 · 9 answers · asked by Boo G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a 29 year old female, I just can't feel romantic. never have been able to feel romantic.
2006-10-06 20:05:36 · update #1
Girl, I thought it was just me. Thank you
I think it is a waste of money for my fiance to buy me flowers that will die in a couple of days, candle light dinners make me laugh because it is funny, and what is the point of lingerie? You only wear them for a second before they come off...what a waste of time to put them on and try to look good. Don't seek medical help. It's just not your thing. It's kinda like some women have more femininity than others and will cry at all happy and sad movies and some women can't do that. Some women get bored of sex and turn off the hormones at 30 and others have sex cravings until 100. I am a psychology major and it is amazing how Psychologists and medical doctors think we are supposed to all be the same or we should go to a counselor and get put on medication. Be yourself and be happy. If you do romantic things and it is not you, you will feel anxious, overwhelmed, nervous, and it will ruin the whole purpose. Plus, who likes a fake person? I am sure you are romantic in your own way but you just don't know it.
2006-10-06 20:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by sweetsin1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were probably raised by parents who did not have romantic souls.
I don't know if you're a man or women, but in my opinion, most people need romance in their life. If you meet someone you like a lot or love, send nice cards for no reason, just that you're thinking of them. Bring an occasional bouquet of flowers when going on a date, or wine or candy. Cook a thoughtful, candlelight dinner for your date with soft jazz in the background. Be attentive and complimentary. Don't bring up their faults. Remember dates such as the first time you went out together and get a little gift to commemorate the occasion. By now you have a pretty good idea of what's romantic. Go for it and see the pleasure you will both get out of it. Good luck you romantic fool.
2006-10-07 02:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because you're afraid that being romantic may lead to other things. Like your lover finding out that you have a teenie weenie.
2006-10-07 02:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Reality 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There r not simular feel in everyone, I'm not romantic too but it's my behavior. u must know it's normal
2006-10-07 02:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by marjan m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u don't have a madical problem u just didn't find the right person to show it...
2006-10-07 03:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be physiological, meaning something is wrong with your brain. or it may be psychological, meaning you may had a bad exoerience in the past. go for psychological evaluation.
2006-10-07 02:54:52 · answer #6 · answered by Rogel D 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there's any problem with you, maybe you haven't found someone special for you yet...
2006-10-07 02:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u are not ready for it but you can try to get it.ask people who u close to
2006-10-07 02:51:32 · answer #8 · answered by mellbez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's normal, there's nothing wrong with you. you're just not the romatic type of person.
2006-10-07 02:50:52 · answer #9 · answered by jv637 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋