how can i feel better about myself?

Question

how can i feel better about myself? ive kinda felt bad about myself all of my life...i dont know y i just have and im ******* sick of it...im ready to feel good about myself. so plz help me.

Answer 1

therapy?

Answer 2

First, recognize your enemy, you. We are our own worst critics, we waste time living in the past dwelling on things that can't be changed, we avoid taking responsiblity for our actions and we're generally self destructive. But why? Wanting to change is a giant first step. I appload you. You need to acknowledge yourself on how important it is too. The fact is nothing any motivational speaker or book or clergy or friends or any outside influence is the answer unless, IT'S REAL TO YOU. You're an individual, unique and able to decide what you agree with and what you don't.
Take a look at your core values( examples- I will not harm animals, or I'm against abortion or, I feel better clean), the ones that you don't have to think about, you just know, and it doesn't matter if you didn't follow one or more of them at all times, no-one is perfect. Start using these values as basis for decisions or choices placed in your path. Realize it's ok to change your mind about something if you learn and accept a new perspective. We all want to be liked, respected, agreed with, but if you don't make decisions based on what you need first, you will constantly be twisted and turned pleasing others. That's not selfish, it's self preservation. To change something about yourself first realize it may take many small steps, and expect to occasionally fall, it's only a failure if you don't get back up and on the path with one of life's lessons behind you, learn from it, don't live in it.
Now my caveat, I only share these thoughts with you without any need to feel agreement. If there's something there you can use, I'm glad I could offer a new perspective. I wish you luck and support in finding and learning who you are and liking yourself, it's contagious, a smile is one of the most powerful positive life forces one can feel, and it can be so easy. OPPS, again, my opinion!

Answer 3

Just try to compare with people who have had still worse life. It is comparison with others or even with our own desires that persuades to 'rate' whether we are better or worse !

Answer 4

This is a helpful exercise: Get some lined paper & a pen.

Write down each positive thing you can think about yourself, NUMBERING them. (This exercise is ONLY for positive things - negative things will intrude, but put them aside. This is for positives only.) I don't mean gigantic things necessarily, but even things like: I like nature, I like trees, I like bushes, I like flowers, I like grass, I like sunsets, I like the wind in the trees, I like sunrise, I like storms, I like sailing, I like exercising, I like walking (you get what I mean - & only list things that really apply to you).

Then write down good things about your person CONTINUE NUMBERING: e.g. I am pleasant looking, I have nice eyes, I have good hearing, I have good eyesight, my nose is sensitive to smells , I like to smell nice smells, I am tall, (or small), I have a good body, I have many muscles, (you get what I mean)

Then write your good morals: CONTINUE NUMBERING e.g. I am honest, I am kind to children, I try to help others, I am sad that there is war in the world, I am sad that there is poverty in the world, I try to be just, (you get what I mean).

Continue to add any other things that will occur to you once you begin to concentrate on positives rather than negatives.

By the time you finish all of this you will probably have MANY MANY good qualities about you - truthful things - there should be at least 100.

Now, keep this list with you at all times. Whenever you feel bad about yourself, take it out & see how many good things there are about YOU!!!

Someone with all those good & positive qualities is certainly a GOOD PERSON who deserves to FEEL GOOD ABOUT THEMSELVES.

If we concentrate on the positive it grows & grows. (If we concentrate on the negative, that grows & grows.) So continue to concentrate on the positive.

WELL DONE!!!

Answer 5

that's a nice sign when you start worry about yourself. Go for help some poor ppls n soon you will feel beeter about yourself.

Answer 6

Know What you want, know how to Earn it, and Hope it works out.

or drugs...