with him and one of his male friends. I find his friend very attractive; but I'm afraid of how I will feel afterwards. Anyone done this; and was it ok?
2006-10-06 17:48:42 · 11 answers · asked by bettiewoeswoes 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
thanx samlet great advice
2006-10-06 19:42:39 · update #1
If you're asking this question; you probably would like to do it. So my advice is; do it! You will probably enjoy it; and not many guys would like another dude in bed with them. It should be fun for you though.
2006-10-07 15:23:40 · answer #1 · answered by yyy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be okay - in fact in can be mind blowingly amazing!
BUT>>>
you have to set up the ground rules first and get your expectations clear. You also have to realize that the relationships between the three of you will NEVER be the same.
Ground rules - No means No. If one of them wants to do anal, and you're not up for that - realize that two guys can overpower you easily.
Your BF will always have the image of you making love to another man. And the other man may feel that he is entitled to more sex - which happened in my case and ended the friendship between my BF and him
You may be at risk for an STD. Or pregnancy - and who would you go after for child support, if they both denied it?
You may get a reputaion as a **** (also happned to me!)
I suggest you get a copy of the book, "The Ethical S.l.u.t" and read it with your boyfriend. It explains how wonderful threesomes can be, if eveyone is clear on their expecations and limits. Myself, I still reminisce about the feeling of two people I cared deeply for making love to me at the same time (anal/vaginal) and all of us laughing and petting and hugging and kissing. It was a wonderful, ecstatic experience for us all.. but that was a once in a lifetime thing.
And whatever you do - do NOT let this experiment be filmed.
I did not feel any shame or remorse the time it went well. We were all consenting adults, a little high, a little drunk, a little crazy. Go for it if you're sure you want to - don't if you have reservations.
2006-10-07 01:03:08 · answer #2 · answered by Samlet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely would not do it if I were you. If you feel confused now, just imagine how you would feel were you to go through with it. Just the very fact that you are questioning whether or not this is the right thing to do should be your answer. Listen to your instincts and tell him no. Most guys who are open to letting another man sleep with you (even if they are there too) do not respect you or really care about you. They simply think that you are a good f*** and want to share with their friends.
2006-10-07 01:03:08 · answer #3 · answered by aprilrayne_26 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All those girls are dead wrong. If your man wants you to have a "threesome" with his male friends YOU ARE STOKED. you get to have sex with other men all under the protective umbrella of your relationship. Its not like hes asking you to have a threesome with women, where he benefits, and you may also but that is another issue.
2006-10-07 01:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by jon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do it your relationship with your boyfriend will probably fall apart he will probably accuse you of sleeping around all the time even if your not. I wouldn't unless you don't really care if you and your BF split. Have you had anal sex? If you haven't then I would wait til you have experienced that with one man first. If you are curious try it first with a dildo. you could also try double penetration with two dildos before you try a 3 -some. Good luck and have fun remember to practice safe sex!!!
2006-10-07 00:56:16 · answer #5 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should see a movie called Chasing Amy before you go ahead and do this.
2006-10-07 00:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by QuestionMan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NOOOOOOOOOOOOOO it is not ok
He obvioulsy doesn't respect you ... he knows you are easy to get to do things and he is just going to let his friend have an easy time with you ..... he isn't boyfriend material... he is just bed material for some poor dumb girl... don't let that girl be you
He is a PIG... didn't your mother ever worn you about men that are pigs????
2006-10-07 00:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by Blondie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No way , Ithink it's time to move on. A guy that wants to share you is more of a pimp than a boyfriend.
2006-10-07 00:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Fuzzy Bottoms 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's not a good idea.. that's not showing that he respects you. My boyfriend tryed asking me to do that with him and another girl so i told him to go and buy himself to hookers instead, he never asked me again :) lol.
2006-10-07 01:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get some self respect & dump the creep right now
2006-10-07 00:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by ausblue 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋