2006-10-06 17:00:46 · 23 answers · asked by nextelfan25 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Until it's official, I'd say yes it's too soon.
2006-10-06 17:02:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I guess it depends on your situation, I did not date for about a year, but then I had a young child who was my 1st priority, when I did start to date, it was very discreet and it was a person he knew and liked.
There is no blanket answer.
Are you dating because you feel you need a man? were you in a bad situation before, have you learned enough not to end up in the same place. Maybe take a little time to assess your life, put it in perspective, before you jump out of the frying pan and into the fire.
I worked with someone whose husband did the same thing, 6 months later she had Herpes, he wanted to get back together, she had never really wanted to break up, he found out about the herpes and that was the end of the reconciliation. So please be careful and think.
2006-10-07 00:08:34 · answer #2 · answered by starting over 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you still love him? Do you want the marriage to work? Are you dating to get back at him, somehow? If you do love him and you do want the marriage to work, then fight for it. It may end anyway, but you'll be able to say you did all you could. You do NOT want to complicate an already complicated situation even more by inviting another person into it, with all the dynamics and infatuation and tension that can cause. If there's a chance at all to salvage your marriage, get to it! IF there isn't, accept that and get through it. BUT learn to be ok by yourself first. That's why "rebound relationships" is a cliche. They don't usually work because you haven't had time to figure yourself out after this trauma you've been through. Good luck!
2006-10-07 01:00:47 · answer #3 · answered by matt c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Hell No!! I bet you, he's with someone right now. And besides
your getting a divorce. As long as you don't hoe around. Don't get mad, What I am saying is just respect yourself. Especially
if you have children together. And never have your date sleep over on your first date. Give it some time. Thats if you found someone to take his place, and never pick a guy over your children. Respect your childrens feelings.
2006-10-07 00:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he made the right choise if this is what your thinking. No, i'm not putting you down, you probably agreed that this was the best action he should take. But honestly not even a drop of remorse? Why me? What can I do to get him back. No, your all ... How soon can I get back in the saddle. Whoopie! No go on back to the bars find another winner!
2006-10-07 00:10:31 · answer #5 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to date other people,but if you do it so soon the things that happened between you and your husband is going to mess you up in a relationship with another man thinking he's gonna do the same thing your husband did to you and that is not fair to you or to him.
2006-10-07 00:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sister Queen Mama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait. You will look and feel better in the long run. You are still legally married and will be taking the high road by waiting until it is final. You do not want to be the one to break vows even, he left and a quick fix date is just that, a quick fix.
2006-10-07 00:08:40 · answer #7 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The nature of humans is that they don't typically leave until they have somewhere else to go. In other words, your hubby is probably already with someone and has been for a while. Go out and have some fun girl, just don't be looking to get hooked up with a new hubby, you need some time to be with yourself.
2006-10-07 00:05:54 · answer #8 · answered by Cinderella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how long its been over 3 months then HELL NO theres nothing wrong with you going out to a NICE bar and just makeing friends This will help you And youll run into some one when YOUR ready
2006-10-07 00:06:53 · answer #9 · answered by marshafaith606 d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should at least wait until your divorce is final and make sure u are not just dating for someone to fill in his shoes as u know, rebound relationships never work, if at all.
2006-10-07 00:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, go for it. He is out doing his thing, why shouldn't you? But only if it's what you WANT to do. And be careful about falling too soon for somebody else. Make sure your new love isn't just like the old one. Lots of people make that mistake. Good luck !!
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2006-10-07 00:04:26 · answer #11 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋