urself, but only for others. is there any solution?
2006-10-06 16:39:12 · 12 answers · asked by queen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hey i think u r very much depressed u need to talk to someone on any matter u like. keep talking go out keep ur mind fresh. dont think tht u r living for others u r living because u want to. keep smiling, tention nahi lene ka.
2006-10-06 18:17:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear queen,
i suppose u r a mother n putting ur whole heart for ur clildren n ur family. ur, 1st of all doing what u love to do that is care for children n family. u always think good for them. u always want to see them happy n full of joy which u give them in every way possible. it may be that they r not noticing ur the care n love u r showering on them.n u expect that they should be aware that u care for them.the only thing in ur mind always is about ur children n family ,u have never looked beyond them that there is life 4 ur self also. dont get depressed that u r not living 4 ur self, in ur heart ur family is every thing 4 u.the only short fall is that what u expect in return ,u r not getting to ur satisfaction.
solution is there -
1.bring down ur expectations
2.try to feel good n happy if ur effort is bringing happiness n well being for whom u r living.have a feeling of achivement.
3.respect ur self.
4. look beond the people for whom u leve n see that many more people need ur care n relationshil,help them or be their friends.
5 meet more people ,talk with them,their needs their achivments,etc.
6indulge in extra activites like,cooking,gardening,reading musicketc.
n distribute the loadsssss of love in u which will bring smile on thse who have no one to care 4 them
u keep smiling u r doing a good job by living 4 others .intodays world every one lives for them selves.u r better then all of them.
2006-10-08 05:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by tarun s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes learn to say no. Sometimes we feel obligated to please others for any little reason. I read this book where it teaches people how to say no. It is better to say no then yes and doing what is asked of you unwillingly. Don't worry about what people say just as long as you are honest with them. Saying no does not necessarily mean you hate them it means you sincerely can't with your reasons kept personal. If you try to explain to people why you can't people might consider you reasons why not valid enough and later say, "Oh yes he said no because he has to go visit his mother." To you it is important but for them it might not be. SO learn to say no when you can't, whatever the reason you have the right.
2006-10-06 23:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by jaaaam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you are saying you are very board with life because you act in a way that is pleasing to others but contrary to your natural self-expression. Your answer is easy but not mind. All you need to do is be your self and screw those other people. But for me life itself seems pointless and boring. We find what is suppose to our happiest moments acted out in TV commercials. I was hoping there was more to life.
2006-10-07 00:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by Roy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear queen - queens shud be living for her subjects
ok lets come to the point - it's a wonderful thing that u do something for others there's nothing wrong in that
life's actually fun . looks like u lack some gud friends - maybe friends cud make life much better
2006-10-07 00:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by chocolates1001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is supposedly about helping others and focusing on others and you will be rewarded. If you feel like you do now , then , you are allowing yourself to be drained by others and maybe you can take some time for yourself now. Apparently you have earned it.
2006-10-06 23:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the same way sometimes. my work relies a lot on others and i feel like im always going according to others schedules and i dont have time to do things i want to do. it's a hard rut to get out of and when i do have time for myself i just end up sleeping. i guess it's time the both of us prioritize and figure out what we want from life and go for that.
2006-10-07 00:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nething can be boring if u r doing it jst for the sake of it ,like v sometimes v can get bore watching r favourite TV soap & at times u vil enjoy jst changing channels, develope certain hobbies like paintings, listening to music,gardening,decorating, gaming on pc.........make sure u hav two or three of them, so that whenevr u r bored u can indulge in one of these, take care, keep smiling.
2006-10-07 01:19:26 · answer #8 · answered by bhavesh_leo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love urself
2006-10-07 03:53:54 · answer #9 · answered by Narayan P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are suffering from depression. Talk to your Dr.
2006-10-06 23:44:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋