I am 7 months pregnant. Found out my husband's been downloading porn and looking at pics and tried to hide it from me. I don't have a problem with porn I just didn't like the fact that he tried to hide it from me, when I asked him his excuse was because he was bored. This is not the 1st time he has done this, he tells me he won't do this again and apologized. I don't trust him at all. I don't have a problem with him looking at porn I just didn't like that he was sneaky. And yes I give him enough sex he's actually the one that doesn't want to do anything. Advice please.
2006-10-06 16:29:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Porn causes sickness in a person. It takes away all that is lovely and pure. It is degrading to the person posing and to the person lusting after the ones in the pictures.
It will rob you of life and peace.
It takes away your freedom. You become in bondage to it and can't quit, no matter how hard you try.
It takes counseling to overcome it and be free again.
It's good that your husband hides it from you. That proves he knows it is wrong. That gives him hope.
2006-10-10 06:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by delmaanna67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be point blank with him! Tell him you don't mind him looking at porn just don't hide it! He must feel guilty about it or he wouldn't hide it! Try this,you pull up some porn on the Internet and then call him in to look at it! Maybe this way he won't feel like a bad child and it might just boost your sex life!
2006-10-06 16:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not have a problem about him looking at porn then their should be no reason for him to have to lie to you. Do you sit and talk with him and explain to him that it is not that he looks at porn that up-sets you and makes you mistrust him, and that what the problem you are having about it is because he lies to you when he is/has been watching porn? If you haven't talked with him about it then I think that you should. Because Trust, Honesty, Love, Friendship, and Communication in a Marriage/Relationship, is very important to have & always keep with one-another. Especially now that you guys have a child on the way.
Good Luck & God Bless You Both!
2006-10-06 16:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is natural for men. If you truly have no problem with the porn than try looking with him or making different options for him. Maybe he is hiding it because he feels you really don't agree with him looking at it. It is better to share some things.
2006-10-06 16:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by Justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you dont mind that he is doing what it is that he is doing just ask him not to hide it from you . He is only hiding it from you because you make him feel ashamed that he is looking at porn, or perhaps he thinks you are hurt by it. Tell him that you dont really care that he is a porn freak, just that you want him to be open about it with you .
2006-10-06 16:32:39 · answer #5 · answered by kibbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably because you are pregnant. Some guys think it is hot, and some don't. They won't tell you that, but it's true. I think he probably tried to hide the porn, because he does love you, and didn't want to hurt your feelings. Even if he didn't understand his hiding it, did hurt your feelings. Try talking calmly about this with each other.
2006-10-06 16:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by Evie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age, with everyhing that is going on concerning predators, he would be smart to STAY AWAY from sh***t like that.... he IS human and may just be curious... if he simply HAS to look at 'other females' in that fashion, tell him to buy a magazine or two.....another fact to consider is men (and women) who start out just looking at porn sites end up going to chat rooms and THAT can and usually does cause even more conflicts in relationships.......good luck.....
2006-10-06 16:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Marsha J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say there is nothing more beautiful than a women that is pregnant.He should try loving you more in steed of the computer it sounds like the man has issues are you sure he is not finding women outside the home his loving to.I am not trying to be rude but most time it just don't stop with the computer or magazines.
2006-10-06 16:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by starlight203_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's simple:
If he continues to sneak around to do it, then he really doesn't believe that are okay with it. We all have experiences where someone says they are okay with something, but they really aren't and decide to confront it with a passive-aggressive approach. Tell him, in plain english and without mincing words/facial expressions that you really don't mind.
(Either that or he just enjoys the idea of sneaking around more than the actual porn...)
2006-10-06 16:35:51 · answer #9 · answered by brimmy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's an addiction. Tell him that he needs to talk to a therapist or you will have to leave. Porn is not harmless. It destroys decent relationships and dehumanizes women.
2006-10-06 16:33:17 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋