2006-10-06 16:25:27 · 14 answers · asked by sempron_mitch 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don´t feel bad about that you are a human as al of us and as welll you have feelings! and sometimes is very hard to forget someone! till you meet someone else that you will see! will be better!!!! and as well you´ll fall inlove! so try to met new people!! hope this helps you!
2006-10-06 16:28:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because as human beings many of us have a tendency to remember the good things or times. I think that God has equipped us to forget pain more easily than pleasure (like women having more than one child after the pain of childbirth). If you have a lot of bad memories then it is important for you to remember that this person is bad (toxic) for you and while you can appreciate that there were good times, stay rational. People really don't change unless they are motivated by pain, and even then most of us will revert to our natural behavior under times of great stress. Enjoy the fact that you can love a person but that you don't need to be with him. You deserve happiness and you won't find it with someone with whom you share a lot of bad memories. Move forward and find someone who you can make new and positive memories with. Good luck!
2006-10-06 23:45:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We can not choose who we love, we can only what we will do about it. Kind of like other feelings I guess, they just come about but then we can decide how to let them effect us. (The question that I ask myself now is how will continue to behave in a loving way despite the memories or how will I stick with the choice to love him but not be with him ever if things happen again.)
2006-10-06 23:39:21 · answer #3 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are in desperate need of a new man to give you new GOOD memories. I had a relationship like that. As bad as he was for me it was like I couldn't get enough. But I found who is now my husband and while I still go back once in a blue moon to those sad memories and how much pain i was in. I now know what love, trust, commitment, and fun really are. Good luck.
2006-10-06 23:29:02 · answer #4 · answered by inchantedfriend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I answered one of your questions earlier tonight, but you've got to stay strong. Without knowing what, exactly, made you break up with him I can't tell you to ask him to get back together. If he was verbally or physically abusive, you have to stay away from him. If, however, you just thought the relationship had "lost the spark" or had stalled, I'd say talk to him about it and see what he thinks. You could also just stick to your guns here and try to forget about him. Again, I had a two year relationship end two months ago, and I know it can be very, very difficult for both people.
2006-10-06 23:31:52 · answer #5 · answered by Nelson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U answered your own ?. Its because you love him...I am going thur the same thing myself and it is very difficult but if you really want to erase him from your life you have to move on and stop asking yourself why. Another Y!A user said something that I thought made a lot of sense and I will share that with you:
Break free from the natural tendencies that bind us to those that hurt us. This is so true if we cld bo this we bth wld be much happier.
2006-10-06 23:30:36 · answer #6 · answered by Teapot23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a relationship addiction or do you really love him? Are you in love with being in love or are you in love with him? These are some questions you need to ask yourself.
Also, maybe you have just forgiven him of all those bad times. I do not have enough info to know. I am just giving you what insight I think. Best of luck
2006-10-06 23:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by Just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same place as you right now, well kind of. Everytime i thinlk about my ex all i can remember are the bad times but yet i still love him and want to be with him. I think it's because when the good times were good they were good and also cause you just want to be with him for whatever the reason is...loneliness, boredom,low-selfesteem,etc.I think we need to just learn to be truly happy with ourself.
2006-10-06 23:31:56 · answer #8 · answered by serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because there must have been some good memories to. Or you just care to deeply to not love him.
2006-10-06 23:29:50 · answer #9 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you simply love him and love sees above all other things. Love forgives and forgets. It's not right but it is love.
2006-10-06 23:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by jaaaam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋