so me and my ex boyfriend have been spilt up for about a year now but he wont leave me alone. he even has a new girlfriend but still talks to me even after i tell him to just stay out of my life. he is always calling, always trying to make plans to "just chill" with me and i keep telling him no. his new girlfriend hates me because she thinks im trying to steal her man but thats just not the case. what should i do?
2006-10-06 16:18:22 · 16 answers · asked by nessy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Men can be hard headed and sometimes the harder you push therm away the more attached they become. If you haven't emphatically declared your relationship a dead issue do so, but do it in writing, so he can't interrupt or sidetrack you. Maybe if he sees it in black and white it will sink in. Some men get the wrong message if you even talk to them. Lets face it, when it comes to issues of the heart, some men (and women) can be neurotic and dilusional, they don't see things the way they really are. Trying to reason with someone who is acting neurotic is futile. Don't talk to him, stay away from where you know he might be. If possible go away for a few months. Don't answer any of his calls, if he does catch you on the phone hang up, treat him like the plague. It sounds cruel I know, but sometimes that is the only way some people get the message. Why are you still talking to him anyway.? Could you, still be emotionally attached to him? If so all the more reason to cut the ties. Once you break up with someone, its over, and If its over, its over. There is No reason to rehash all that emotional trauma. Most likely, there were serious issues for the break up, some very obvious and some not so obvious. I'm an old grandma of 54, I've had numerous relationships with men. I have realized when you break up with someone you should not try to go back. Usually you will wind up leaving them again. Also, personally, I can't pull off a platonic friendship with an old lover. Its too weird; some people say they can, but I doubt it, I think they are just trying to be, oh so sophisticated. I don't buy it.. This thing for certain. always, always, listen to your inner dialogue, when you do you will never go wrong. Good luck
2006-10-06 17:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by galichealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor guy he is still caught up on you.
Maybe you should have one last go and have a proper chat to him telling him serously to leave you alone etc.
And if that doesn't work then maybe try and get through tohis new gf and if 'es smart she'll set some rules like its me or her and your ex will be smart and choose the gf he has a fiture with not you.
Start getting tough if he doesn't leave you alone.
Then there are always court orders..... :S
2006-10-06 16:25:01 · answer #2 · answered by kamazeee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your number and then if he follows you at your house get a restraining order and also if he is still following you tell his new girl that you don't like him calling you and you would like it if he stopped. that way maybe she can get him to stop...just try to do your best to avoid talking with him...ignore him and don't even pick up the phone, if he blocks his number then when you realize its him hang up. My husband had this crazy ex and she would call and sing to him and he would just hang up tell her he couldn't talk or leave the phone on the counter while she sang to him. He then later told her not to contact him anymore and she has tried once or twice but she hasn't gotten a chance to reach him.
take care good luck
2006-10-06 16:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by audri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think something must seriously be wrong with hima nd you should be careful. Tell him to stop calling you and if he keeps on calling you might want to consider getting a restraining order against him. It may not seem that serious but life's too risky to take chances like that.
2006-10-06 16:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by serenity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer the phone. Don't answer his IM's, emails or text messages. Block him if you can on your phone, block him on the computer. Do not ever talk to him again.
Change your friends or any environment that you run into him. Move on, he's not a part of your life any more so stop encouraging him.
2006-10-06 16:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stay well away from him,change your number and try to stay away from the places where he might be.Do not 'just chill' as he might upset you.Keep away from his new girlfriend and if she causes trouble ignore it because she is more than likely going to get the same treatment your getting at the moment.I know what its like ive been through it my self.Remember if it gets out of control dont put yourself in any danger and inform the police about it.
2006-10-09 03:44:53 · answer #6 · answered by brunette 2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to record one of his calls and call his gf and show her. Also tell her that if her bf doesn't leave you alone you will get a restriction order, just to scare him, it might work
2006-10-06 16:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by dinobonito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order
2006-10-06 16:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell hime your going to get a police protection, if he dont leave you alone you got a stalker, serious problem. if he thinks your joking about the protection, do it. im a man, if someone got one of those on me i ll leave that b.... the hell alone real quick. i aint no stalker.
2006-10-06 16:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by big boy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just straight out tell her to follow you to see that you don't bother him that he bothers you... And she should ask him not bothering you with her jealously. Let him say it in front of both you guys that hes not the one finding you.
2006-10-06 16:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by little chika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋