I broke up with my boyfriend 4 days ago and haven't been home. Now that I started packing my things he is talking about now he realizes everything was his fault and now he understands his mistakes and that he'll change. I want to believe him but I've heard this before. He's cool for 2 weeks then the same things. He stops helping me around the house and with the kids. Starts gettin mad for stupid things. Tells me who am I talking to on the computor..... Well anyways I'm also leavin his three kids who keep askin when Mommy's comin home? ... I was so close to taking him back then he said," I guess I have to get rid of the surround sound system I bought you for Christmas." I'm thinkin what the heck? I never wanted that... Then I remembered how he spends money on stupid stuff instead of paying bills.. and told him thats another reason I don't want to be with him. But I still feel bad. Been crying all day wondering if it's the right choice. I do love him but I think he needs som responsibiy
2006-10-06 15:44:01 · 7 answers · asked by Sasasa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please do go through with moving out. He needs a good wake up call. If he REALLY pulls himself together, and shows that consistently for a long time, you could reunite, but DON'T give in easily!
2006-10-06 15:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. You're dealing with a consequence of playing house rather than building a family the right way -- through marriage.
2. He's clearly still trying to manipulate you. If he really wanted to keep you, he'd have given you a ring a long time ago.
3. What exactly is it that he's supposed to change from? Is he abusive, or does he just not pick up his socks. Nobody can advise you without vital details like that.
Just from what you've told us, it sounds almost like you're being over sensitive and controlling. Your man SHOULD be a LITTLE jealous of you, and concerned about who you talk to online.
4. You should have thought of the consequences for the kids of "shacking up" with a single dad before you did it. Now they're going to suffer even more from someone who didn't stick around. Do you really believe that breakups don't affect children in the long term?
With EVERYTHING in life, you should be decisive about what you want, and what is right. Then you should go ALL OR NOTHING to do it. You've REALLY got to start making better decisions with your life, because your life affects others.
2006-10-06 22:54:37 · answer #2 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving him doesn't mean you can live with him... I think you made the right choice... Move out and don't look back because girl- you CAN do better than that! Learn to love yourself and move on in life. Good luck!
2006-10-06 22:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by bc_grl68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you don't want to be with him, it'll still be hard to leave. If you do want to stay, I recommend counseling. It'd be too easy for him to fall back in to his previous patterns without it and you'd end up unhappy and if you wanted to leave again, he would just play the same game of "I'm sorry, I'll change" to get you to stay again.
2006-10-06 22:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear at least he is your boyfriend and not husband. It would be 2xs as hard if you guys were married,,, get out lick your wounds and move on... It sounds like you took on a huge responsibility when you met him... He needs to grow up and handle his ****...
2006-10-06 22:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by sissybombay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick to your guns. This dude is unreliable and bad news.
2006-10-06 22:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Prosnick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it sounds like it is in your best interest to leave him.
2006-10-06 23:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋