how do you find the time?

Question

I have a 27mo old son and a 9 day old baby. How do you find time to take a shower? I can't leave my son unattended with the baby (I WONT because he loves him, but he doesnt realize how rough he is) and I dont like waiting til my hubby gets home because I like to feel clean when I go to the docotrs or wherever it is I need to go. When it was just myson and I , i would usually just let him stand in the back of the shower that way I knew where he was. I cant realy do that now. help!

P.S I am always looking for mommy friends online! None of my friend have kids so I never have anything to talk to them about. [e-mail] (or yahoo IM)

Answer 1

can u get up early enough to shower before hubby leaves for work?? . . or shower at night before going to bed . . .

Answer 2

My girlfriend with 3 children has this great system of common nap time - or quiet play time in their room now that they are older - so that she has at least a full hour if not a bit more to herself to read, watch a bit of tv, or heaven forbid take a shower and brush her teeth! I remember the first days of motherhood I wasn't a very clean mommy, forgetting to brush my teeth half the time. It would hit me at lunch time, Oh my gosh I didnt brush my teeth! While parenting isnt new to you, having 2 children is. This too will get much easier with time!
If your son can handle a parc without climbing out, you can put him in there and then your newborn in the baby swing or whatever else you have age appropriate. It's a shame your hubby cant be home at this time - no paternity leave available? That's something that needs to be available in the US. Here in France new dads get 2 weeks to take off when they want (and a MANDATORY 4 days immediately after birth). Sure was nice having someone to share all those immense responsiblities with even if it was for just 2 weeks. Took that long to recooperate from labour!

Answer 3

When one was napping I would put the lil one in a "Johnny Jump Up" in the doorway. The baby may get bored so you should talk sing or play peek a boo with the shower curtain...something like that. ALL of us Mama's of multiple kids deal with the same problem. I would also shave and do everything I could outside the shower...before my shower cuz they can see and talk to you. Plus it makes your showers shorter. You are NOT alone!!! If this doesn't help. You will be forced to take one in the middle of the night or real late...Sorry. Trust me it will get better. At least THIS situation will! Good Luck, Mama!!!

Answer 4

i so know where you ae coming from. mine also loves his baby bro to bits!....i remember days of not taking a shower.....it just didn't happen sometimes, and i just learned to accept it on those days.
if you don't have them already...buy some door handle thingys so the elder one can't open the door. if baby is sleeping then put the knob on so he can't get in there, and take a monitor in with so you can hear any stirring or crying...then take a shower the way you would before you had your second.
or wait til the older is napping, and you can still bring baby in with you in a carseat or bouncy seat--or swing in the living room (with a monitor nearby). once the cord falls off you can bring him in with you too and have some special bonding time.
i often waited til hubby got home and could occupy my older one or both----and then showered real fast.

heck there were some days i didn't have time to eat!! just hang in there, and congrats on your new little one!!

Answer 5

When my daughter was only a few months old, I would put her in a bouncy seat beside the tub while I bathed, now that she is 2 yrs old, I close all the doors in the hallway, make sure there is nothing she can get into and let her play, but usually she stays close (runs in & out of the bathroom while I am bathing- I like that I can see her). Then I make my bath fairly short. It's not the most relaxing bath, but at least I get clean.

Answer 6

Make shower time YOUR time by waiting til everyone is in bed......yes I know you are exhausted I have twins.......This way you can get in some much needed R & R and then go to bed ..........just until myson can get to the point of being left alone for 15 min. while maybe watching a movie or something......and at any naps relax and nap or read no housework just you time maybe catch a bite,,,,,I nearly starved myself til I learned I eat and relax during their sleeping times! Take care!

Answer 7

Maybe you could bring new baby in the bathroom too and put him/her in the infant carrier and still let your big boy in the shower with you. The sound of the water may help baby sleep. Or maybe you could take your shower while baby naps and use shower time as time to spend with your oldest. I really do not miss those days at all...they pass quickly though. Good luck to you!

Answer 8

LOL my son now 30 loved his baby sister too. I would put the new born in her base nett in my room shut the door , turn on the monitor and take it and my son in the shower with me.
I got to the point that at night I would take a nice long candle lite bath after supper while papa spent time with the babies. A Quiet time for momma is just as important as time with the children.If you look after you then time is great with the little ones.

Answer 9

when the kids are napping or atleast the baby. You can also still take the oldest in the shower with you and leave the baby out of the shower but in the bath room in a seat or in something safe. or leave the oldest child in his room (if he is still in the crib leave him in there) if not you can get gates and gate off the bathroom leave the door open and put the infant in the bathroom with you and gate the bathroom off. Just try to keep them both safe I learned from experience it is best to keep them seperate

Answer 10

I had a daughter who was 26 months old when I had my son. We waited until the baby took his first nap and I showered with my daughter. Now that she's three, I still wait for my son to take his nap and I put my daughter in her room with the gate up and she plays until I am done! Good luck!

Answer 11

Put one in the bathroom with you and one in the crib (hopefully asleep) or bouncy seat and shower FAST! Ask a friend to drop by and let you shower while they watch the kids for a coupple of minutes. Shower at night while your partner is home. Shower while they nap. Good luck.