I have a friend and sometimes she does stuff that I don't like and even thoguh somehting may be her fault she always makes you feel guitly so I always end up saying sorry... but I always end up always wanting to be her friend again, and shes really sensative, so if I say umm sometimes you do this, and this and this, and I don't think you should that so she'll something like so your saying I always do everything wrong!?! you know what whatever and she won't talk to me until I say sorry. WHAT DO I DO!?!
2006-10-06 15:36:39 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
oh, and if I say I don't wanna be her friend she'll go to my other friends and tell them not to be mine because she will lie bout' me... I mean I do have like tons of other friends but she is like one of the main ones, and If I won't be her friend she will gossip about me with my other close friends!!! She hurt one of my other friends so bad today she made her cry and she took away like 3 of her friends~!!!
2006-10-06 15:46:14 · update #1
The problem is that you're being submissive and she knows it. Obviously this is getting to you and one day it's going to be too much for you and you're going to explode. You need to decide whether you can go on this way. A friendship should be equal and not based on just one person always having to be at fault, and having to watch what he/she says because the other one wants everything to go his/her own way. That's not a friendship.............it's certainly not the kind of friendship I'd want, and deep down i don't think you'd want it either, otherwise you wouldn't be asking this question. The way it sounds, I think you two are going to have a serious argument at some point because eventually you're going to get fed up. My first suggestion is not to back down all the time. If you're in the right, then you're friend should be able to recognise that fact, and if she's a good friend then she should go to you and apologise......even if it takes her a bit of time. Secondly, you should point out when she does something wrong, at the time she does it, so it's just one thing you're mentioning. Obviously say it in a nice way but be firm if she tries to lay another guilt trip on you. You will have many friends in life so start ensuring from now that you get the ones who respect you and truly value your friendship, rather than those who just want a power trip.
2006-10-06 15:50:07 · answer #1 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once had a friend like that and i just started hanging around other people. It got my friend annoyed but soon he found new friends and now we're talkin again. It takes time, but its better in the end.
2006-10-06 15:40:56 · answer #2 · answered by May contain traces of nuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in any type of relation there should be a balance. if you are always the negative one, the mean one, the insulting one and all those bad things, then, maybe this relationship wont las long and i dont think it will stay honest
2006-10-06 15:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by LIL' DEVIL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another friend that doesn't treat you as bad as her. There many people in the world to be friends with.
2006-10-06 15:39:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like she doesn't want to hear about her faults so she tries to make you feel bad about it. You are going to have to decide if you truely want to be her friend or not.
2006-10-06 15:40:17 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say sorry leave her dumdass n get back wit her until she says sorry (if watever happend waz her fault)
2006-10-06 15:39:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem!!! i am going to wait until another person answers this question. lol.
2006-10-06 15:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by jellybeanes_67 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is controlling you. Do you have any more mature friends?
2006-10-06 15:39:31 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of her a$$$$, thats retarded
2006-10-06 15:39:25 · answer #9 · answered by *Chelsie* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋