What is the best way to tell a friend (male) that i am bi/gay? I want to do it but not sure how to broach the subject and want to cause minimal harm to our friendship. We are good mates but not very close. I also suspect he may be in the same boat.
2006-10-06 15:06:22 · 14 answers · asked by melbsxc 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
Just tell him when you guys are alone and feeling mellow.
If he's a true friend, he'll accept you for who you are, not for who you like to sleep with.
That's just a personal preference, not a reflection of the type of person you are.
Don't be ashamed of yourself.
If you like rival teams, does that mean you hate him for his preference of your rival team? That would be idiotic.
If he's a good friend, he won't judge you. Give him a chance. You never know.
If he's also gay, this might just be the beginning of something wonderful!
Good luck. : )
2006-10-06 15:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mary* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask him say" we're close, right?" you know if you can trust him, so then tell him how you have something really hard to say, to tell him and you wanted to , since you two are great friends. Some people feel the same but show it in different ways, so if he is in the same boat then it'll relieve some tension between you two and bring you guys closer.
2006-10-06 15:13:35 · answer #2 · answered by oldtimegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people don't want to know... and it's best to not tell them.
I remember the time I lost a friend because he said to me one day... "Can I ask you a question?" I said "Sure... what?"
Then he looks at me kind of puzzled like and says "Are you a Heterosexual?"
Well... I'd never heard the word before... I had no idea what the meaning of the word was... but I'd heard of homosexuals... I knew what they were... and I knew I wasn't one of those... I mean... that's not a good thing... and so, I'm thinking that a heterosexual must be something even worse than a homosexual...
"Oh God No!" I said to him with a look of absolute horror on my face...
He got quiet real fast... then he said "I'm so sorry to hear that"... he turned off the music, and asked me to leave... we never really talked much again after that.
Then a lot of my other friends started treating me strange... they kind of avoided me... but guys who had never really paid much attention to me before began to be really nice to me... it was all to strange... it took me years to figure out... but it all came back to me.... that one day after school... hanging out in a friends bedroom listening to records.... and he asked me a question using a word I didn't know the meaning of....
2006-10-06 15:21:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine was in the same situation. He got around it by telling his friend that another guy had offered him sex with no strings attached. His friend asked what he did about it, and he just smiled and said "what would you have done?" That put the ball in his friends court and opened the door for communication.
2006-10-06 15:23:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him. If he is bothered, he wasn't much of a friend, in the first place . . . . If he's in the same boat, maybe you can act as one another's support system.
2006-10-06 15:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a few friends that are gay....but thar friends dont care that they are.....the best thing to do is just be honest with him...if hes a true friend he wont care...he may be a little conserned but..i dont think he'll care if hes that good of a friend.....and if hes in the same boat....LUCKY YOU...that is...if you like him in that way lol.....
I HOPE EVERYTHING GOES FOR THE BEST!!!
2006-10-06 15:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are really good friends and it really matters how he would react. Just be honest and upfront wiyh him. Make sure you are in a comfortable quiet place. Be true to yourself.. If he really is a true friend...it won't make a bit of difference. I mean it will work out and hey if he is too well, there ya have it....good luck ;)
2006-10-06 15:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by djjoecruz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open a subject about bisexuality, ask him what does he think about this people..Then if its ok with him..then start slightly by asking him "what if I'm gay?? would you still be my friend??" Then the rest is all up to him..
2006-10-06 15:14:59 · answer #8 · answered by Matilda g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first ask him if he would still be your friend no matter what you tell him about yourself.
and if he is a true friend he will say yes.
then tell him you are gay and if he says he is too then your fine.
if he says he is not gay but is fine with that then you're OK.
but if he says he doesn't like that then he is not a true friend.
2006-10-06 16:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by random person 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would just say it because the more you keep it in your Friend May find out another way which could destroy your relationship it would be better to come out with it and say you did this because its the only to let him know he might agree and accept it or worse its life ........
2006-10-06 15:57:48 · answer #10 · answered by Surfer_69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋