im a 32 year old male, single parent of2, my ex walked out on us 2 and a half years ago, i loved her desperatly. i think i have gotten over her, i know she wont be coming back, the thing is, i think i have forgotten what its like to smile and be happy. i used to be a mans man with a great sense of humor. how do i get it back?
2006-10-06 15:05:56 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm so sorry to hear that but u have to get hold of urself together coz u got important priorities ur 2 kids..they badly need u right now...they r kids and they dont understand what is happening....best of luck...
2006-10-06 15:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by ctmaryam_83 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately mate you gotta do this one on your own. People will tell you they understand what your going through but really they aint living inside your body and mind so they don't. The only thing you can do is "let go" I know that sounds kinda stupid but its bloody hard. Your the only one who can teach your self to let go. It takes time and you gotta let ya self be human. When these things happen it can take ages for the turbulence with in your life to settle. The key is to find that centre point where "you can be calm". My first wife died when my kids were 4 & 5 years of age. Going from being a petrol head to some one who worried about whether there was washing on the line when it rained was devastating. I don't know how I did it but one day I stopped looking at the past and started living again. I remember all these people giving advise ( that sounded good but only made the people giving it feel better). In the end it was time and me learning to do it myself that brought the real me back.
2006-10-07 01:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by The Guru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need counseling or meds or both. I'm not really into the meds thing but I just wanted to remind you that that is an option.
Having said that, I think I need the same thing!
I've had a terrible year so far and I know what you mean about being happy. I feel quite hopeless right now. Just remember though that something good WILL come! It stinks waiting though lol
2006-10-06 22:10:36 · answer #3 · answered by Amaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out and be with people and do all the things that give you a sense of accomplishment and enjoyment and watch a lot of comedy when at home and it will get better just don't be hard on yourself - you need to go exactly the other way and try to have fun and it may be hard to find the will but it is better than any pills a doctor would give you
2006-10-06 22:19:32 · answer #4 · answered by william john l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry...I have been in that same position myself...10 years into my marriage my (now ex) husband had an affair & moved out...I just could not get happy. He eventually came home (my bad...he ended up cheating again)...Church, counseling & even some medication helped me...in that order. Good luck & God bless you...I know it's hard!!
2006-10-06 22:30:52 · answer #5 · answered by suzeq19642003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get back with your mates!
Organise a trustworthy sitter and go for a good blowout!
With lots of preperation, time and planning it could be time of your life and the start of a new routine.
You are still young enough to have a life so go grab one and don't even think about feeling guilty.
2006-10-06 22:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by Lorraine R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother's first wife walk out on him and left him with 4 kids under 10. What he did first was take get involved with his kids. They miss their Mom as much as you do, if not more. You will discover that your kids can make you whole again and can make you smile and you can do the same for them. It will take awhile, but time really helps.
Good luck.
2006-10-06 22:09:51 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out, and start enjoying life, hook up with some old friends, try and start over again, even though you are a single parent, you are still young, so don't let life pass you bye..get out there. go for it. good luck god bless and sure hope that everythings works out well for you.
2006-10-06 23:18:12 · answer #8 · answered by donua1022 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what makes you and the children happy. It can take years to get over something like this, so be gentle on yourself. You sound like a nice bloke, but do think why she left - and learn from it.
2006-10-07 04:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the key to happiness is gratitude; remind yourself every day of the blessings you have in your life. 2 healthy children, a job that allows you to support them, good people in your life, God, beautiful weather, your 5 senses, trees, and the possibility to find love again!
2006-10-06 22:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋