I love him very much but for some reason I never want him sexually and I'm not sure why anyone have any ideas what is wrong
2006-10-06 14:53:09 · 29 answers · asked by Toni M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Low/no sex drive is a complicated problem, but you can solve it.
1. Decreased hormones: In many cases, a woman's loss of libido can be traced to the hormones, specifically a decrease in available tetosertone, resulting in a loss of bone mass and a loss of sex drive. Diminished progesterone has the same effect. Vaginal dryness, fatigue, and decreased bone mass are usually also present. You can test and treat this at with your doctor or OB/GYN. It is very common.
2.Fatigue caused by increased stress, over consumption of caffiene, decreased hormones, lack of sleep, stress, etc. all can reduce/diminish one's sex drive.
3. Aging may make a woman feel less attractive and therefore decrease her sex drive.
4. Relationship issues are very common. Most couples have enough built up resentments and routine irritations to squash any romantic feelings unless they work to resolve some issues and work to enjoy their sex life.
WebMD, and many women's health sites address this. Almost all humans have this issue at one time or another. Its treatable. Best of luck.
2006-10-06 15:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by whereRyou? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion to you would be to see a doctor because it sounds like your going through some female issues. I am 30 and I have never had that problem but I have some friends that have gone through the not wanting to be intimate with their spouse and no it isn't normal. Sometimes your hormones get messed up because of stress. So see a doctor and see what they say. Good Luck!!!!
2006-10-06 22:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably the way he approaches you. If you've been married a long time, probably nothing can change your feelings about that. Did you ever desire him? If so, then try to rekindle those feelings and guide him as to what you like or wish him to do. Tell him he needs to be more romantic and masculine in his foreplay. Do you desire other men? That will be an obstacle too while trying to work this out.
2006-10-06 22:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you love him like a brother, not a husband. I think that if you truly "love" your partner, then you want to love the whole person on many levels.
I love my best guy friend to death, but have no desire to have sex with him. I love my husband, and I can't keep my hands off him.
2006-10-06 21:57:07 · answer #4 · answered by BuffyFromGP 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just have a low sex drive, I sure do. It means nothing. I don't want other guys either. You need to find out what turns you on and teach him.
2006-10-06 21:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help girl. Get over yourself. Love means to bend beneath the level of your own convenience and meet him at the level of his need. Sounds like you love yourself, not him.
2006-10-06 21:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by hoover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Doctor it could be your hormones or maybe your just to tired or bored with him. Try to go on a trip with him or something like that just the two of you.
2006-10-06 21:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just can't put my finger on it see if you can talk with him and let him know what you need i think you are missing something or he is not doing it go buy toys it will turn him on bet if you 2 watched a porn movie that will get you both going maybe your missing kissing and hugs good luck to you
2006-10-06 22:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to give just a little more detail on your situation. For example is he like 5'0'' tall and 200 lb? Is he not skilled?
Really it might just be you.
2006-10-06 21:57:25 · answer #9 · answered by Trevor L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons you need to get checked by a dr. it may be physical and can be treated.
2006-10-06 21:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Cat D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋