I have a crush on this girl. The problem is, I only see her where she works, and when I was brave enough to actually go up to her and make a move, I missed my chance cause she was so busy, other people were around, etc. She was never in the same spot for more than a minute.
And now, there have been at least five different times where we made eye contact, and she even smiled once, and I still haven't made a move.
I'm afraid she's losing interest because I've been hesitant...and sometimes I get shy and avoid her eyes when she looks at me. I'm afraid she thinks I'm not interested when actually I really am.
What should I do? Should I just not wait any longer and just go up to her the next time I see her? or should I just smile when she looks at me? I'm trying to go there when it doesnt seem as busy, but lately she hasn't been around, and that sucks. I want to show her that I'm interested. Sorry if this is a lot of detail. Thank you for your answers in advance.
2006-10-06 14:29:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Some of you said I need to make sure she's gay first. I agree because I've made the mistake of making moves on girls who I thought could be gay but were straight in the end. What are some ways to tell without asking? Something that gave me a sign---the eye contact. I forgot to mention that it's been a year since we first SAW each other, and just now this crazy game is happening. I'd like to think there's a reason for her looking at me, and smiling at me, other than just being nice bc she has to be. I guess the only way to find out is to just go for it, huh? Maybe ask for assistance...? She's so freakin busy though.
2006-10-06 17:18:47 · update #1
Don't get so caught up in the details of your encounters....when is the right time?.....when is the wrong time? Feel a little more confidence in yourself that U will not be judged by this person if U speak and tell her how U really feel....UR only hesistant b/c you feel emotionally vunerable if you expose your real self to her and she laughs in your face.......embrace that fear and you will see its just a silly little story U wrote out in your head b/c deep down inside burried deep within your emotions you think you don't deserve to be happy because all U focus on is the negative things that have happened in your life.....let themn go for a few seconds live in the present.....not the past and speak from your heart not your head...and I guarantee she will show interest in you.....Good Luck
2006-10-06 14:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by macrominded 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be wondering the same thing about you. One sure way to let her know that your gay is to get a rainbow - or some other obvious "family" symbol of being gay - key chain. Hold it when you go into her place of employment where she will be sure to see it. Mention something about a former girlfriend - if she's not gay she'll assume you mean platonic - but if she is gay she'll know what yo mean. Tell her "I think I saw you at _______ (some gay hangout) last week, was that you?", etc., etc. Take things from there if she seems like she knows what you're talking about. Finally, you need to realize that at some point you'll have to let yourself be vulnerable if you really want to pursue this. Good luck!
2006-10-06 17:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
hey i know exactly how u feel, im lesbian and i work in a shop and ive a mad crush on this girl that comes into the shop. we have made eye contact a few times and we both go a little red when we see each other! i think she is gay but i dont know for certain. ive tried to say something to her but there are usually people around so i dont get the chance. if i were u id give her ur number and say u would like to meet her for a drink sometime. if she is interested she will contact u. i wish the girl that i like would do that! mmm.... ur not from mayo by any chance? it would be funny if we wer talking about each other! xxxxxxxxxx
2006-10-06 15:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you two are together and like you said get a free moment kinda start a conversation and see where it takes you. I have a feeling she is so into you. If she dosn't pick up on what you trying to say then you will have to make a move. Maby rub her arm or touch her hand. It ushally works. Good luck.
2006-10-06 14:42:53 · answer #4 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off ask yourself WHAT CAN I DO? make an appointment with her schedule a time when the two of you can be alone- even if its a lunch date...
Write her a poem,
give her a card
or send her flowers with only your phone number at the bottom... let her think she is making the first move by accepting.
GOOD LUCK
2006-10-06 14:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by admiredi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all u need to find out if she is gay! Break the ice somehow-bring up the subject,see how she feel about lesbians!
She may just be being nice to you because she works for the public,and is supposed to be nice and smile at u-so u need to be sure!!!!
2006-10-06 15:55:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there're no set rules to bail you out of your predicament. Its only you, who would have to take initiative. Try to diverge on some topic of conversation that might interest her, and she gave more time to talk.. from there you can develop you side of the conversation that would lead to intimate relations.
2006-10-06 14:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 Make sure she's SINGLE.
2 Make sure she's GAY.
2006-10-06 15:05:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
But you are a girl too?
2006-10-06 14:50:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋