When I first introduced my littlest sister to my husband (at the time we just started dating) everything seemed to go well, Until that fateful evening. That first night, my sisters (I have another sister who gets along well with my husband as she and him respect eachother and not cross boarders when they interact and I feel no problem with him complimenting her and calling her beautiful in any way because it comes from a solid place as she is beautiful) my littlest sister (the one who took it upon herself to flirt with my husband and my other sisters boyfreind =( and him were "playing games" as he now refers to the incident, as it took him very long for him to admit! there were ALOT of small talks between them, her giving him the eye bat to appear mysterious and he fell for it..it dragged on through his encounters with her. He treats her the way he treats me and it feels awkward. When I brought it up to him when it first took place he called me insecure but the thing is I wasn't.
2006-10-06 14:20:35 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you still with him and talking to your sister??
I would've cut them out of my life the minute they crossed the line!!
2006-10-06 14:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got a mess .... Try to be the adult here and talk to your other half (alone) and express your concerns and feelings for him .... flat out ask who he prefers (you I hope) and ask if he wants to keep it that way...... Then speak to the sister and find a way to tell her ... back off !! Se may be flirting to get the attention, the ego stroke and perhaps because she feels it's safe ... because he loves you and he'll play but won't touch .... Sister every man has a point where he will consider the obvious no-no's ... make sure she knows how it will affect your family and the relation ship between the both of you if she fails to stop.
Sit back and watch ... try to relax .. see if he trips on his dick and if she's there to catch him .... trust your instincts.....after you have warned them .... let them make the next move ... you can always send him packing and get a new one somewhere else and if the sister wanders back .... remember alittle super glue in her Tampax box should keep her very busy and outta action for a while ...... just kiddin"
Good Luck your gonna need it !
2006-10-06 15:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your man got confused.
Find a quiet time and talk to him. Tell him you know he was just "playing games", but that you feel "playing games" is not appropriate behavior for a husband.
Ask him if he thinks you and he still have a chance. Ask him how he thinks he will handle interacting with little sister from now on. Tell him you need to feel that he respects you in order for this relationship to work. You don't feel respected so you don't trust him.
It is very hard to maintain a relationship without trust. Ask him if he thinks he can he do the things that will allow you to trust him.
Speak to him calmly and with respect. When he answers you, respond to him. Do not react, respond. Take a breath, think about what you want to say, and speak to him as you would a friend.
You just need to determine whether or not this relationship can make it. Are you willing to forgive this if he can make right decisions from now on? Or is there a basic flaw that will never allow this situation to resolve itself? Make youself notes if you don't think you can keep this train of thought without them.
If you guys decide to split you need to agree to continue with your combined houshold until both of you are financially ready to separate. This is stressful and requires objectivity. The goal is to be stable individually, not to create a united financial entity anymore. If you can do this you both will survive better financially.
Punishing him isn't going to work. And it won't change his feelings or what he has done. Just discuss with him the topic at hand: Can he be a good husband? Is he capable of making decisions in favor of his marraige? If not, what do you both need to be doing to relieve as much financial strain as possible in your respective futures? Keep your cool, find your path, and then follow through.
2006-10-06 16:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your little sister probably has a flirty personality.I have a friend like that but since I have known her since childhood I understand that's just how she is.She is even that way with ladys.I would just tell your sister that your not comfortable with the way she interacts with your husband and that you love her cute flirty personality but men including your husband might get the wrong impression.Then I would tell my husband to not give her so much attention.Tell him to just stick to hi how have you been I'm good.You should also tell your husband that you are the only women besides his mom that he should tell is beautiful.That will help to avoid hurt feelings and other problems later.Hope this helped.
2006-10-06 16:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you need to tell your sister what you are thinking, and if she has any respect for you(her sister)she will stay away, or stop flirting with him.And as for your husband, what a jerk! Id would say that he could cheat on you with anybody then, if he's flirting with your sister. I wouldn't trust a man like that at all!!
2006-10-06 15:16:14 · answer #5 · answered by jan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its sad that your little sister cannot repect the line of DO NOT MESS WITH MY BF. its also sad that your bf is not handling himself well in front of your sister either. when it first started happening, he should have told you, " your sister keeps looking at me weird and it makes me feel awkward". by him not saying anything to you, there's no trust or respect. i would seriously think about breaking it off with with a guy like that and then confront my sister. if she acts like " what are you talking about?" i'd stop seeing her too...there are some women who like men that are already taken. it sounds like your sister is one of them and i would never trust her around a guy you are dating.
but thats your sister and you can never change that. a bf, you can. if he had put a stop to it from the get go, then at least there would be some trust. but thats not the case here with your bf. good luck, but hey, whats a relationship without trust????
2006-10-06 14:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by life beyond yur wildest dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not insecure, you are perceptive. This is not a good situation. Is it possible for you to get someone your husband respects to talk to him and help him see this is not right. Talk to your sister. If she won't stop this behavior, limit your contact with her.
2006-10-06 14:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by RockwallCat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh lord thats just not right he crossed the line with your sister..and he knows it..he is getting to friendly with her and you need to put a stop to it..never ever should a married man treat a single women like that unless they have ill intentions..
2006-10-06 14:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by bllnickie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then keep your sister away from your husband or vice versa. Very inappropriate behavior on your husband's part.
2006-10-06 14:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This behavior is inappropriate for in laws.....not only will you lose your husband, it's possible to lose your relationship with your sister....even if she is the flirtatious type he should know better....he needs to respect you and your feelings....
2006-10-06 14:33:24 · answer #10 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋