So, here's my prediciment. I am physically attracted to men and prefer them sexually, but do not thrill to them emotionally. While with women, I tend to prefer their company and form stronger emotional bonds with them, but sexually they don't excite me as men do. So what in the world am I? (yes trolls, I'm sure you'll toss in some "a sicko", thank you, you can move on)
2006-10-06 14:17:11 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have the same problem. My relationships with women are stronger and more fullfilling then with males. But I would rather get it on with a male then a female, and I infact become etreemly unexcited when I'm with a female.
It took me alot of soul searching before I finnaly figured it out. All those things about sexuality and kinsey and all that crap is BS. It comes down the the most profoundly simple answere it will seem rediculous untill you think about it for awhile and it sinks in. You are you.
I, for instance, am Michael (my name). Michael is my sexuality, Michael is my everyrthing. I would say the same thing if my name was Steve or whatever. Its not the name that matters, it is that you are you and your sexuality is yours.
You will come accross the right relationship. Just keep makeing friends, keep being open, and dont box yourself in with lables others make up for you. Be you. Period.
2006-10-06 15:11:20 · answer #1 · answered by aiji.tenchijin 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that I am pretty ignorant about this stuff, but it sounds like you may be one of those whose gender identity is mixed up. I am exactly the opposite, I am only (really) attracted to women. Yes, there were occasions growing up when I noticed, "Hey, Tom Selleck is a good looking man" and I was concerned because in my upbringing, and my understanding at the time, boys were not supposed to find men as "good looking" (even if they were). But I have always been more comfortable and agreeable having male friends.
Do not take this as fact, please, because only a professional can tell you, and even then i am not so sure i am a believer.
One thing i can say, is you are not weird, sick, or otherwise strange because of how you feel. As long as you do what you do with consenting adults, behind closed doors, whatever floats your boat is your business.
2006-10-06 21:30:22 · answer #2 · answered by SteveA8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a straight man, I can tell you that it sounds a lot like what I hear a lot of straight women say. They are attracted to men sexually, but have a hard time relating to them emotionally. Perhaps you have the sexual and emotional makeup of a straight woman.
Do you find an emotionally 'manly' man more sexually attractive than an emotionally feminine man? Or is it purely physical?
2006-10-06 21:39:47 · answer #3 · answered by dave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sean, you already know the answer to this question. You cannot put the burden of responsility onto someone else to tell you who you are. You must acknowledge this yourself first. Once you do there is a very large community of people that will support you either way. Of course there'll also be a few weeds in there (pointing to the first answer from Draino) but generally they can be spotted a mile away and ignored or stepped on and crushed as you choose. God says ... to thine own self be true.
2006-10-06 21:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by God 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are bisexual. In my opinion, to be homosexual or heterosexual you have to be both emotionally and physically attracted to one sex.
I am just the opposite of you! I find myself physically attracted to women and emotionally attracted to men. Not to say I don't also have an emotional attraction towards women and a physical attraction to men, one is just stronger than the other.
2006-10-06 21:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by Serious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you find a man that is feminine and then you would be happy! :)
Because then the feminine man would be "like" a women (not being mean most are - including my friends that are!) but still have the sexual excitment that men give you.
2006-10-06 21:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to figure this out on your own.
FIRST OF ALL>>>DO NOT LISTEN TO DRAINO. he is a jerk and the only word in his vocbaulary is "******"
You should experience dating men ifyou have the opportunity. It cant hurt if you are curious. If you dont like it , then you will know. It cant hurt to try though.
2006-10-06 21:22:45 · answer #7 · answered by njank99 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am gay and my closest emotional relationships are with women. I think maybe the both of us just haven't found the right guy yet.
2006-10-06 22:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by puhpaul 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a woman, it is easy to answer this question. YOU ARE GAY. Those are the same feelings that i have about both sexes. You see homosexual as you can see has the word sex in it. so its who you like sexually that labels you as either bi,homo,or straight. etc.
2006-10-06 21:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see not a thing wrong with that, you just happen to be turned on by men and not women fine with me :]
2006-10-06 21:24:04 · answer #10 · answered by BLAH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋