In the past weeks I have ran into two former coworkers that I haven't worked with in a year. I like both of them very much but they lead lives different from mine and whereas I want to keep in touch I am a little uncomfortable having them over. I don't think they know each other because they worked in different areas. The problem is one of them drinks alot of the weekends and has gotten dwis and been in jail for it an all. She is kinda rough acting and just got divorced. She has mentioned getting into fights with other women over men. The other woman is a heavy smoker and also tends to run with a rough crowd compared to me. I don't drink and am not comfortable with drinking, I don't curse, smoke, or party. I like both of these people alot but really feel uncomfortable when they mention us getting together. I prefer to see them when I see them, when I am out and about.
2006-10-06 14:02:26 · 4 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
don't invite them to you house. ever. just ask them to meet you for lunch, coffee, or a movie. they can't cut up or smoke in a public place anyway.
2006-10-06 14:52:37 · answer #1 · answered by bad guppy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything wrong with not wanting to socialize with these women. They are acquaintances from your former job not life long buddies. Sometimes it's just a figure of speech to say "lets get together sometimes" but it isn't etched in stone. If they are that different from you then you know they feel the same way about you so I wouldn't worry about it. When you see them on the street, talk to them and get caught up on whats been going on with them but then say "goodbye", you are not obligated to spend time with them or invite them over to your house.
2006-10-06 21:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by KieKie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you should invite them if you really like them
2006-10-06 21:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say go for it
2006-10-06 21:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋