but i dont like one-nighters either. what should i do? should i become a 'stud' and not have any involvement with emotions or should i keep being single forever until i cure myself of my fears?
2006-10-06 14:00:33 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
This question sounds very complicated and you are hiding much about the situation... If you are hesitant it is your inner voice warning you- Take it slow until you are more comfortable... slow is romantic for in a relationship we all look back to the dating times before we were serious to reminiese and bask in the glow of our new love... SLOW is the way to go
remember if it takes less than an hour it's not worth it anyway! haha
Good luck
2006-10-06 14:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by admiredi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face your fears and keep trying. Look for others of your persuasion in other places beside bars. In our area, gays hang out in coffee shops, new age stores, natural food stores and local artist venues/galleries. Try the Unitarian Church. They are very open to all people. Keep trying to find someone to treat you you as you deserve. You have to protect your heart and harden it enough to give you confidence and trust, yet keep it soft enough to begin a new relationship. This is always the difficult part. Life is full of these challenges. But trying to become a "stud" if you are not one is a falsehood that could begin a whole new set of problems. Good luck.
2006-10-06 17:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. As my "friend" Carol would say, intrinsically appreciating yourself is essential for healthy relationships. I'm pretty sure that won't take forever, and for some reason don't believe you'd actually enjoy being a non-emotional 'stud' :). Haha- in the mean time, there's always the non-romance friend fvck buddy alternative....
2006-10-06 15:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by Alex62 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay single & while you're not looking the right one may turn up & by then you might be over your fear. & good on you for not liking one-nighters that shows you have self respect
2006-10-06 17:01:02 · answer #4 · answered by ausblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. :) But take it slow. Very slow. That way you can protect your heart in the process.
2006-10-06 14:01:51 · answer #5 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you sound repressed. You need to completely come out of the the closet
2006-10-06 14:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by goldwing 110083 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if you can't deal with these bad experiences on your own, find a couselor who can help you work through your issues.
2006-10-06 14:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you slice it, two girls together are hot
- Albert
2006-10-06 14:02:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
go out with a guy
2006-10-06 14:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
it depends on wat fears you have.
2006-10-06 14:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by kiwiz101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋