I am in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship and ready to leave, but we have three children and I am in a hurry to leave, I have family, but they have children and spouses to take care of. Please give any advice? Oh What makes matters worst, I am a stay at home mom with no income right now. I know I have to go back to work.
2006-10-06 13:38:10 · 9 answers · asked by Luv3Babies 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Contact a lawyer, do not sign anything he gives you without a lawyer present. Since you are a stay at home mom, you may be entitled to alimony and child support for the children. Since he is verbally abusive he will tell you anything and I mean anything to scare you into giving up your kids or staying put.
Again do not sign anything without your attorney. Most states are community property states meaning what is his is yours and what is yours is his, short version, assests that ya'll collected during the marriage is ya'lls together he can not take everything from you nor you him. If there was not a prenuptial agreement signed prior to the marriage then assests collected prior to your marriage can also be divided up equally.
2006-10-06 13:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by Lori H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes .. a very sad & unfortunate situation. But, i am wondering if perhaps you might have a DSS (Department of Social Service)program in your area ? If so, then maybe what you want to do is to contact the department and set-up an urgent appointment . They do cover most all areas of "domestic-related" problems and, would even provide you with the neccessary professional counseling /counselors , shelter & finances to help address your situation & circumstance. And, i am sure to say that once after you have presented your situation to them ( DSS) they will act immediately . They will find temporary -shelter for both you & kids just to remove you from the shared- premises of your abusive husband ; and until such time that they can get you & children established on your own .
Might I also add, that this can all be done & arranged without your husband knowing.
Well, that is the very best advice that I can suggest to you at this time. And, I know a friend of a relative that that was once in your very similar -situation and did make out very well by taking that route to separate from her abusive husband.
Wishing you & yours , well!
2006-10-06 14:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by anthony J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to leave if you think he will.
1. Make a financial plan. If you can get your hands on some money, start stashing some away. Go open a savings account with only your name on it, or hide it somewhere in the house.
2. Go to the library and check into books on divorce and abuse. Read them but keep them hidden, so he can't see them. In a bag of some type.
3. Call a domestic abuse hotline and ask them for resources.
4. Talk to your family. Even if they have their own lives, doesn't mean they won't help you when you're in need. If they don't know, they can't help.
5. If you're a stay at home mom, doesn't mean that you don't have rights to the money. You have just as much right as he does. Can you get your hands on it? If so, get it and go. Call the abuse hotline first.
Hang in there, you'll make it.
2006-10-06 13:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is an abusive relationship GET OUT NOW!!! Don't worry about what he thinks- the best thing for the kids is to leave-period. Call an abuse shelter- it should be in the front of your phone book because quite often they can help you get out, get a job, transportation, housing, etc. untill you get on your feet. The main thing is to leave-NOW!
2006-10-06 13:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by justfeelingfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I accept as true with limitless disaster. once you're the only searching after them then you quite favor her to adhere to the agenda or get your approval ahead. An emergency, i'd understand, yet in simple terms even as she sounds like it? No. that's being horribly disrespectful. there is fairly some belongings you may do with in simple terms one newborn that you won't be able to do with more suitable than one and also you want to be in a position to plot your day. that would want to rigidity me nuts. I accept as true with dealing with your husband in this. And what in the international might want to she favor morethan 1/2 the week off for. guy, there is fairly some belongings you'll get performed with 1/2 per week of no kids. Why might want to she no longer favor to work out them the full time she's allotted?
2016-12-04 08:43:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you just can't work it out .... I went threw this myself .... I have a job and when things were sticky between us and I thought nothing was lookin' up ..I got my kids in daycare ... found me an apartment ..... and when he was at work would shop for furniture , beds, things we needed and the day I left him me and the kids were so happy.... but our youngest one was really spoiled by him so he called ...everyday to see them and I made the mistake of telling him where we stayed.. and he came back into our lives.... and me and the kids eventually went back home with him... this happened recently ...so i'm still wondering what if? but evertything happens for a reason ...maybe you & him just need to seperate a while , then he'll see how much you meant & will want you back but will treat you better next time.....
2006-10-06 13:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by No 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL. first things first, you will have to decide weather you want to stay living were you are or get a new place for you & the kids.
if you want to stay were you are then you will have to get the police to take your husband out of the house & get a injunction for him to stay away. so you will just be living there with your kids,
or, you could find a new place with your kids, & leave him in the house you both live in now. BUT still get an injunction out on your husband to keep away from you & the kids, until you get sorted out proper. i have found you a site i hope it helps you. good luck.
2006-10-06 13:56:36 · answer #7 · answered by KATIEKAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are the kids, what gender, and do you have the education to get any particular type of job? Would the kids' dad be willing to be the one to leave the premises?
2006-10-06 13:40:35 · answer #8 · answered by catintrepid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce!!
2006-10-06 13:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by .sevenchances. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋