Shortly after my partner and I first started dating we had a big thing happen in our lives where he made a big mistake but did everything in his power to make things better. However, since then I have somewhat emotionally abused him and treated him badly. It has really hit me hard how I have been and I am going to change! I just want to stop treating people badly. Im too old for that crap and Im ready. I dont want to slip ever thiugh, any suggestions?
2006-10-06 13:30:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try creating a list of things you do that you know you end up regretting afterwards. You can go over these things with him, and he can be watching for them too. There's no guarantee of ever being perfect, but you can do your best and make it a goal between the two of you to always try to work things out, no matter how difficult it may be to do so. In the long run, relationships ending up being a lot about compromise, his and yours. Ask him to make a list of things he can do to make you feel more secure in your relationship, and hold him to it!
2006-10-06 13:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend and she and her girlfriend were together for a while and her girlfriend stepped out on her. well, they have been together for 10 yrs this year. they have alot together they are raising a child together they are buying a house together. I don't know what your man did to you because you did not tell but I believe that if you two love each other and really want to stay together then you both will do everything you can to keep the relationship going. but in turn you yourself can not be ugly to him I am sure you are mad at him but you have to be better then that. one thing is really good is that you have realized that you are being ugly to him and that you are treating him bad. so you need to start being better now before it is too late. good men are hard to find dont let them get away. good luck with you and your partner.
2006-10-06 20:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Dannielle U 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just treat someone on how you would want to be treated. What you plan to do is going to be hard b/c you developed a habit of treating someone bad. Habits are hard to break. I would say focus on quality time as opposed to quantity time. You need to have some good experiences together to build new habits. Go on a trip, try new places together, and every now and then get some space to appreciate the other
2006-10-06 20:46:01 · answer #3 · answered by Need Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello there, i would suggest you try counselling, when we enter relationships we bring baggage like it or not and until we work on that stuff & heal from it, it keep affecting us & people we love.....i have done therapy for many years & have found it has really helped not only to heal me from the pain of my past, but it has also helped me to take responsibility and change the way i respond to other people. I really hope you seek counselling to free yourself from the torment you seem to be causing yourself & others, best wishes
2006-10-06 20:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Donna S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that , in this stage of your life, you want to change, You need to work on your self, and sit your partner down and apologize to him, for the way you have been treating him. tell him you want to work on making your relationship with him strong. and that you are going to do everything in your power to make it work. Express your love for him, and tell him how you appreciate him being patient and understanding with you. Kudos to you!
2006-10-06 20:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its time to make it up too him..you can learn to forgive and forget...ask your self why do you feel your treating him badly? and then discuss it over with him...and if he doesn't understand that you want to change then **** em!!!!
2006-10-06 20:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by young1darcy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out.
2006-10-06 20:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by 24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋