i was overweight and guys and girls at my school made me so miserable.so what i did was went on a weight loss plan and now im slim and beautiful i guess. now guys all of a sudden want to ask me out to homecoming and girls that made fun of me ask do i want to go shopping with them thats weird right. im still a quiet,shy,reserved girl my self esteem is the same...low. but should i turn these guys down. i want to to get back at them but i do want to have a LIFE if you know what i mean.
2006-10-06 13:17:21 · 12 answers · asked by percy m 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
turn them down. you already know they are shallow and will add no real value to your life.
go out and meet totally new people because they won't be influenced by your past.
2006-10-06 13:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by loveholio 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
do what seems right to you...if there is someone out of that crowd you think is honest and might change if you give them a chance, it might be good for both of you. i would not automatically befriend all of them now because you already know some of them are truly shallow. some may just go along with the others. but as for your self esteem, we all have regrets no matter what we do or dont do, so listen to your inner voice-always, because you know to trust yourself. If it can truly boost your self esteem then it is worth it- sometimes that can almost never be repaired. Be very sure you can trust the person not to spread rumors about you and stay friends with those who were there for you before. The "clicks" never really go away, even after so many years. Take care of number one (yourself).
2006-10-06 13:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by bonbon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you give an ugly boy a chance to be with you? If you would, then don't date any good looking people who ask you to the dance. Give the ugly duckling the chance you didn't have.
If you don't want to give an ugly kid a chance, you're just as bad as those who made fun of you and drove you to become better looking. If you are, then date a good looking kid, and go shopping with the girls who never gave you a chance before. You lost the weight for a reason, didn't you??
Really, if you would date an ugly kid, then you are not shallow. But you shouldn't judge a book by it's cover. There are ugly kids with ugly personalities. There are ugly kids with beautiful personalities. Beautiful people with ugly personalities. But there are also beautiful people with beautiful personalities.
For me.. Honestly, I guess you could say I'm shallow... I like good looking women.. I mean, personality is the most important thing... But I have to be physically attracted too...
2006-10-06 13:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
YES, you should turn them down. If they had really wanted to be your friends or take you to homecoming before, they wouldn't have cared about what you looked like [before you lost the weight]. Imagine what would happen if you gained the weight back--POOF! The attention is gone. You should be yourself and find friends through doing the things that you're interested in. Aso, if they made you miserable before, why would you consider getting involved with them outside after all that *ahem* crap they put you through? The only thing that changed about you is your physical appearance--not the true you.
2006-10-06 16:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by NK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah, it's like a song I once heard by Mike Jones.
In the chorus, he said, "back then they didn't want me, now I'm hot, they all on me." I think you should show them the same treatment they showed you. It's all about the looks and the body to these guys, I should know because I'm a man. Diss 'em all, because now you don't have to be chosen, you can do the choosing for yourself, pick someone who you know deserves you, and someone who never made you feel bad about yourself.
2006-10-06 13:29:30 · answer #5 · answered by Brixton B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have more dignity than that. they didnt see your INNER beauty then, why would a little weight loss change that? im sure you are a wonderful person, but those nasty nasty people havent made it more amazingly obvious that they couldnt give a flying f*ck about your personality, and that, dear, is degrading. your true friends and lovers will see all of you, the good and the bad. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-06 13:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
transforming into eye-catching has no longer some thing to do with no longer having adequate self assurance or no longer exhibiting your authentic self. we stay in a society the position we are judged in preserving with our haircuts,shoes or maybe the style of lipstick we pick 2 positioned on. all of us replace form each and every so regularly in simple terms to sense extra perfect about ourselves. so definite if a nerd turns right into a hottie, your darn suitable i'd date him! no longer in elementary words is he smart yet he's eye-catching too! and thats no longer a kit you detect too regularly lately!
2016-12-04 08:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no go have fun just remember that these people are only fair weather friends and don't get caught up in there shallowness,and getting back at them will only hurt you in the long run, when u are done having fun with them thay will be bothered enough when you get better friends.
2006-10-06 13:42:55 · answer #8 · answered by bonny b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah turn them jerks down now they see a winner but they only want your body not your heart which was the same when you were when you were heavy men are loser's .. runaway from them shallow SWINE !!!!SUEWEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!
2006-10-06 13:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore them. They didn't come to you when you needed a friend.
2006-10-06 13:27:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋