i don`t know what to do because i don`t want her to be mad at me.
2006-10-06 12:50:59 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Talk to the school counselor, or school social worker. You can also make an anonymous report to Child Protective Services.
2006-10-06 12:52:44 · answer #1 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're truly concerned about this, have a private discussion with your school counselor. They are there to help you -- it's their job and what they are trained to do -- and they can deal with the problem without revealing the source of their information.
If you feel up to it, you might instead encourage your friend to talk with the counselor herself. She would have feelings to deal with and could use a trusted adult to help her.
You may have to face the fact that if she finds out you've told an adult about it, your friend might be mad at you for awhile. But if she's truly in a hurting situation, you will have to decide that perhaps you'll do what's best for HER and not what's easiest for YOU. Do not promise her that you won't tell anyone. That just limits the kind of help she can get. If you've already promised silence, and you believe she truly is in an abusive situation, you have the obligation to break your promise to her in order to get her help.
However, having said all that, be sure that you have your facts straight first. Have you witnessed the abuse, or has your friend just told you about it?
When you seek out an adult to talk to about the situation, be sure to be clear about 1: what facts you know for sure, 2: what things your friend may have just said, and 3: what things you only suspect.
You don't have to figure out this one by yourself. If it's a serious situation, you need to find a trusted adult and share your concerns.
2006-10-06 20:07:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find out if she is hitting her out of discipline or if it is just plain physical abuse. There is a difference between spanking someone and abusing someone. If the girl is disoeying her mom and being punished in a controlled fashion, like with a belt on the bottom but if she is being abused broken bones, slaed in the face, hurt without control then you could report the mom to the division of family services and let them investigate or tell your counselor at school or principal. The division of family services keep things private and not expose the report.
2006-10-06 20:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by Inspire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hitting her like ultimate fight challenge? or like watch you smart mouth or i will smack you hitting her. Hitting is never the right answer, but if it is hurt full and not as a form of discipline, i would Tell her to get proof and call her grandmother first , and if that doesn't work call CPS. but never cry wolf cause there are kids out here that really are getting hit and they done need a busy signal when they call cause another kid is mad at mom for not getting their way...
2006-10-06 19:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by dee-dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wont be mad, she'll be glad someone finally loves her enough to see that she's in a an abusive house. Here's what you do. Call the department of children and family services. DCFS. Tell them what you have seen. Tell them the names and address of your friends mom and her and they will do the rest. Good luck
2006-10-06 20:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by nicksriders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being hit on regualr basis, whelps or if bones are broken is abuse and needs to be reported.
No one deserves abuse. No one. It is obvious you care and sometimes when we care for people we have to do things they may not like in order to help them.
I have given you a webpage that should help. It has a section for teens and should answer all your questions. Don't be afraid to do the right thing.
2006-10-06 20:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by earthleabear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
decide, if its just a whipping with no lasting signs etc, then its good for her & u should know that parents have been doign it across the ages for several times longer than the length of time parents haven't.
if its serious throwing-her-down-the-stairs stuff like i've witnessed, then someone more official should know about it. tell your form tutor if ur @ school or get advice from the police.
2006-10-06 19:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Which is worse? She doesn't talk to you and is safe, or she talks to you and gets hurt badly or even dies from being beaten? At least alive she has a chance to forgive you - and possibly thank you someday. Most DHS agencies will take annonymous complaints. They wouldn't even have to know that you were the one who told
2006-10-06 19:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by purpleb1977 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the authorities! You are not helping your friend by allowing her to be abused! She may be mad at first, but she will know you cared enough to intervene.
2006-10-06 19:53:06 · answer #9 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is to stay out of it. If the friend wants something done, she needs to do it. Now, if it is abuse, that is diffrent, you need to tell the counsler, or your parents. They can help you with this issue.
2006-10-06 19:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋