**Please note I am not racist and do not judge someone on color, sex, creed, or heritage, but I had a friend tell me something disturbing **
She said that if a black person calls a white person a cracker or whitey, or a mexican calls a white person a gringo, its not racist, but the minute a white person calls a black person a nigge* or a mexican a ****, its racist.
I cannot tolerate racist people, yet this person I have known for 5 years and I want to say something, but what do I say? Help....
2006-10-06 12:47:16 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
What do I say without ruining the friendship?
2006-10-06 12:47:48 · update #1
Hello....
How about telling your friend the real truth. If your friend is really a true friend she will understand, and then tell her to love herself and to love God. After you tell her what I suggested that will show you if she is really your true friend. I hope the best for you. But the truth is the truth and I personally believe in the truth. Let me tell you the truth can hurt, so be ready. If she gets upset give her some time to think about it and hug her. That's your part in your friendship. Have a nice day.
Like I said, love yourself and love God because he loves you.
Sincerely, J. (:
2006-10-06 13:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Jeanie N 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That sick and pathetic claim that only whites can be racist is the ultimate in racism. Judging anyone, of any race, solely by their race is the very definition of racism, EVEN WHITES!!!!!!!!!!
You can't say anything to such a racist person without ruining your friendship.
I suggest you dump this friend. Being friends with such a racist person is not a good idea. Unless you are a masss murderer, you deserve better than that.
2006-10-06 19:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, complete ignorance. You can say, plainly, "I don't think that." If she asks why, say "because we're all the same baby. If you insult me, no matter what color or label, is still an insult." That should do it. I have Mexican heritage, but I am still called a "Gringa" by other Mexicans from Mexico, because I am from the US. You guys over here don't know everything!
2006-10-06 19:57:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her she is exactly correct, at least as society views it. I have heard more than one person in major news organizations make a remark to the effect, "XYZ can't be a racist, s/he is black, Hispanic etc". Just pay attention to the news for a while, I'm sure it will happen again.
2006-10-06 20:04:10 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well this is what is known as reverse discrimination. Ethnic groups figure that since they've been called names in the past, its considered fine to do it to the people who did it to you. Its blatant racism. Martin Luther King said "Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere."
On that note, here is what the wise Reverend said, "Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity."
2006-10-06 20:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by JPH 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is clearly a racist comment, if anyone calls someone else by a name that is derivative of the color of their skin.
You should tell your friend that you find it offensive when she uses those terms, and that you'd appreciate it if she wouldn't use them around you.
Shame that there's a double standard, isn't it?
2006-10-06 19:58:22 · answer #6 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They're trying to pull a double standard on you
2006-10-06 20:10:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say that you disagree.If he won't be your friend just because you disagree with him then he isn't a very good friend after all is he?
2006-10-06 19:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
tel him or her to practice what they preach
2006-10-06 19:55:48 · answer #9 · answered by why us 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋