It's not that he has a lack of confidence. He's great, in every way and i'm not looking to change him. I'm just looking to do something proactive to continue his development. I'm his father and motivated to step up my parenting skills without hurting him or being to pushy. Any ideas?
2006-10-06 12:24:56 · 14 answers · asked by divad 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well, his confidence needs to be justified. In other words, he has to think he is good in something, but he also has to in fact be good, or he will become disappointed when he can't meet his own expectations.
At his age, it is especially important that he feels good about school. Too many kids are not well prepared for elementary school, and they get frustrated quickly and quit trying. It is much better to be one of the top students in a class than to be one of the worst students.
So, at that age, the best thing you can do is to spend time with your son on his "3 Rs" of reading, 'riting and 'rithmetic.
It will pay off bigtime years from now, in terms of college admissions and scholarships, which will open lots of doors.
2006-10-06 12:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd recommend asking him if he'd like to take some lessons in something ... like a dance class, martial arts, music lessons ... something that interests him and will give him a strong sense of accomplishment, and skills that he will have with him for the rest of his life. Any of those things can really show children they are capable of great things, and as they see the progress they can make they will feel really good about the things they can do if they work hard. Structured lessons are best, because they usually have exams or some set levels that children feel like they are moving through, rather than unstructured activities, although they can be really beneficial too.
2006-10-06 13:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being gay means you are sexually attracted to people of the same sex. Your five year old isn't sexually attracted to anyone yet. Being gay does not mean you are masculine or feminine. There are masculine gay men and feminine straight men. There is nothing wrong with a little boy wanting the things your son wants - and it doesn't mean he is gay. It just means he has decided that his father's warped sense of what it means to be a man is not what he wants for himself. You need to learn to accept your son for the person he is. If you don't you will have a child who will either do things to make you even more angry or will stop being his true self and become depressed and sad. Do you want an angry or sad child? Your son could be gay. But it is not something he has any control over or any awareness of yet. There is nothing you can do to change him. You can love him and accept him. If your son is gay what will help him more than anything else is to have a family that sticks by him and supports him. It is a tough world out there for gay people. NO ONE chooses to be gay or becomes gay from a particular style of parenting. If your child is gay it is no reflection on you. It is not about you- it is about him. Some little boys like things little girls like and grow up to be masculine guys - I know I raised one of those little boys who loved Little Mermaid/ Sleeping Beauty/ Beauty & the Beast/ Cinderella and begged for barrettes, nail polish, Barbie dolls, and pom poms. He is now 24 and into women. And he still likes Hawaiian shirts!.
2016-03-27 06:35:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say, now is the time to find what he is good at. Put him in sports or in music lessons. Help him excel at school, children love being able to answer questions, help other students, and help the teacher. If you could find somewhere where he can volunteer, that would be priceless. I.E. picking up litter or a fundrasing for a walk such as breast cancer, donating items for homeless kids. The feeling he will get from helping others will be a great lesson to teach and will boost his confidence. At that age, children want to help and please others. Goodluck!
2006-10-06 12:37:26 · answer #4 · answered by littlebit17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try enrolling you and your son into a family oriented martial arts class. Your son's confidence will sore to new heights and the classes will help him with his motor skills, such as balance and focus. It will also give him a filling of accomplishment as he moves throughout the ranks. It will be good for you to because the both of you will have something to bond over.
2006-10-07 13:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by atagurl101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the greatest confidence builders Is Square dancing in that each time one executes a call ones builds confidence. Works great for divorced people also.
2006-10-06 12:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ibredd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a responsibility, like putting a clean garbage bag in the empty waste basket.
It's not much but it's a start. I did this with my grandson and went on to do others.
Like create something on paper; build Lego's; whatever. Be sure that you display his work and compliment it. And draw others attention toward it. Use his name and how proud you are.
He will start having ideas of his own. Good luck.
2006-10-06 12:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by Deborah K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband played ball, helped to build model airplanes and 25 scale cars. We at that time was interested in slot cars, and HO cars. We also flew control line airplanes. We played kick ball. We rode bicycles around the neighborhood. We went fishing, camping, boating, and attended car races. Oh so much to do to widen the interest of a little guy. We went for long walks in the woods and picked out the trees that produced acorns, walnuts, and bitternuts. We showed him animal tracks of deer, raccoon, and he learned the different types of birds. Whew.. I suppose I could think of much more if I thought about it more!
2006-10-06 12:35:55 · answer #8 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 6 and a half year old.he is also great kid and i'm like u trying to biuld his self esteem. i try to involve him into making decisions(could be a simple thing like what do u think will match this skirt .which bread do i buy?).of course on his level.and also let him pay my shopping. give him a charge over house chores.something easy and of course always what great job he is doing.it won't hurt to show him the right way.but don't rush to do it for him he has to figure his way.i think he will feel that he is doing grown up stuff that will give him more confidence.
2006-10-06 12:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by lina l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen sports really help with self-confidence. At his age maybe expose him to a few sports and let him do it socially dont put pressure on him to excel as such. One that I saw which worked wonders for kids is karate, it teaches you to defend yourself which is a useful skill and teaches self discipline.
anyway thats my 2cents :)
2006-10-06 18:27:52 · answer #10 · answered by j20sa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋