I have some friends that are asian, and they are cool. But there are some that are a bit annoying. Am I racist towards them, and just dont know it? I think I need to start befriending more asians, and maybe I'll learn to like them, and appreciate their culture.
2006-10-06 12:17:21 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
No, you are not. The bottom line is that you are going to like some people, and some you are not, regardless of race. It is safe to say that there is probably one person from several races that has done or said something that I do not like. That does not make me disregard the entire race. If you like them and their personality, you don't care about the race. If a person rubs you the wrong way, you dislike the race, it is the person.
Racism is a belief in the moral or biological superiority of one race or ethnic group over another or others.[1] The term racism is also sometimes used to refer to preference for one's own ethnic group (ethnocentrism)[2], fear of difference (xenophobia), views or preferences against interbreeding of the races (miscegenation)[3], and nationalism[4], regardless of any explicit belief in superiority or inferiority fact. Related concepts include prejudice, discrimination and racialism.
2006-10-06 12:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by croc hunter fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, people have a common, but sad habit. We tend to feel threatened or uncomfortable or annoyed by someone different, and be unkind to them. That's why, some people do some stupid stuff, like bulling other kid or picking on someone because the person has a physical deformity or becoming a racist, or anti-Muslim. Those are who do not know how to accept the difference between themselves and the others.
What makes you become annoyed? Is it because they do something you don't do or you don't understand? Or are they not nice to you, because you are not the same as them? You have to find out specifically why you get annoyed, and think of what you can do for that.
In addition, the same also goes for Asian/Oriental population. I am Japanese myself, and my boyfriend is a black man, and I do not work for a Japanese company but a British one in London at the moment. I do get annoyed when some Japanese people say " Oh, I only work for Japanese company because I don't think I get accepted because I'm Japanese" or that kind of stuff without even trying, and only hung around with Japanese people since that's what they are. I do not understand what they left Japan for.
I think you might be a little bit racist, but it seems like you are trying to do something about it, so that is a good sign. Everyone needs to learn how to accept differences to be friends. I have been learning that, and I always will be. I advice you to try the same, and let me wish you good luck.
2006-10-06 20:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by ono 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything that starts off with "I am not racist or anything, but..." likely is going to involve racism.
Operating on the theory that you are trying to better yourself, here are a few questions and remarks -
Do you find any Caucasians annoying? Any other race that you like some but not all? If so, fine. Forget about the race and just realize that there are simply people you don't like because of what's inside of them, who they are, not what they are.
Also, I found it very enlightening to discover that Mexicans have a smaller buffer zone than Americans. I.E., Americans like to have at least two feet distance between the person that they are talking with. Mexicans like to get up real close. Once I realized that, I was able to deal with my inexplicable unease.
I've spent a great deal of time with various Asian cultures while doing Martial Arts, and each group has different customs and ways of doing things.
You say you have Asian friends, so ask them about their culture. Don't go, "Hey, why is
2006-10-06 19:44:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, you are not being racist .. i am sure that there are some non asians who you also dislike. but i admire the thought that you should start to befriend some more. i have many asian friends and i learn heaps from them each time we spend together. i am invited into there homes for meals and parties and they are truly a lovely people. take time and appreciate and dont learn to hate others. the ones who you feel bad with, maybe they are trying to learn you more and not going about the way you know but just give them a chance .. friendship is valuable .. charise
2006-10-07 06:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by charise 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not racist. I'm Asian and believe me, there are some Asian people I can't stand. Just because you can't stand them or don't get along with them, doesn't make you racist. Befriending more Asians will not make you like the ones that you already dislike. Sometimes, people with bad attitudes and bad personalities are hard to get along with regardless of race.
2006-10-08 10:16:23 · answer #5 · answered by bsantos0523 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you not like them because they are Asian or because of the way they act?
Maybe you just know a lot of Asian jerks.
2006-10-06 19:19:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's not being racist. You don't like everyone your own race either. It's not about the race, it's about the kind of people you like. No one said you have to like all asians...or all of any race for that matter.
2006-10-06 19:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by aprilandroland 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound ignorant, and meeting more Asians isn't going to change that.
2006-10-06 20:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by Redawg J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a racist to me for jus sayin that.
2006-10-06 19:31:52 · answer #9 · answered by catworkbefoul 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that if your Asian friends wear Jilbabs or turbines, you should remove them in a swift and violent manor; and then slap them silly.
2006-10-06 19:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by bigrichyhello 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋