2006-10-06 12:10:30 · 11 answers · asked by Debbie D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am an ex drug addict and so is my hisband and i have to say we didn't clean up until we realized what we were doing. The addict has to want to change not just because mom wants them to. I cleaned up my act when I took a good look in the mirror and saw where I was going. As for my husband he had me to help him through the drugs and it was a very hard thing for him to realize that he needed help and wanted to be helped. Everything will work out if you show support to your child and help them through this difficult time they will come to realize that the have a problem and want to do something about. Keep your head up everything works out .
2006-10-06 15:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support your child as best you can emotionally. They are in the most horrific nightmare already. As hard as it is to watch them struggle, don't support them financially or physically, as that enables them to continue making poor choices. Let them hit rock bottom, as they cannot be helped until they want to be helped. Read AA/NA/Alanon material. They can help you understand what your child is going through and help you in how to support them best. Fighting an addiction is the most difficult trial a person can face but it can be done. My family thought my addiction was the worse thing that happened to me. Turns out, it was the best thing (other than my kids) that ever happened to me. My addiction brought to the surface all of my character defects. When I was brave enough to face them, not only did I conquer the addiction, but I was able to completely re-define who I was. Don't give up hope. Believe that in the end, this too can be a blessing in disguise. I will keep you and your child in my prayers.
2006-10-06 12:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by Semi-charmed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When dealing with drug addiction at any age or relation is always diffacult. Often associated with immense denial.The first thing i can suggest is help for yourself with seeking proffesional help in order to assist with developing more knowledge for yourself and within yourself with coping with given situations and support issues,and ways to furthur action for your loved one. In these given times,it is always important to remember not to get too lost,and remember seperateness,and that you are not responsable for your childs decision with the addiction,and that you too need counsel,as you are an important person and need health dealing with this issue.
2006-10-06 12:31:15 · answer #3 · answered by Seeking 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Debbie, first off, how old is your child? And what drugs are they addicted to and how long have they been using drugs? How do you know for sure that she has a drug problem? Please give more info so we can help you on this forum.
2006-10-06 12:23:03 · answer #4 · answered by beautyofthesea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there, done that.
First, you need to get them some help.
But also you need to realize that, in the end, they are going to have to make the decision to get clean - and that might take a long time.
So, just be supportive of their efforts to get clean, don't be an enabler of their addiction, stay positive.
Good Luck!
2006-10-06 12:17:15 · answer #5 · answered by RT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Debbie keep your head up stand by your pride and joy pray and get a councelor they help never trash talk them for they are very breakable now step by step is the best way
2006-10-06 12:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definatley get them therapy.
Be prepared for a lot of pain, they may even think they hate you but dear this is your child.
It is better to have a live child that 'thinks' they hate you than to bury a dead junky.
2006-10-06 12:22:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL ,LET ME SHARE WITH YOU A STORY ,MY HUBBY IS THE BABY IN HIS FAMILY AND HE IS MOMMY BOY AND DADDYS BOY STILL AT 32 .OK WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED 6 YEARS AND ONE YEAR AGO I FOUND OUT HE WAS ON COCAINE .HE HAD BEEN DOING THIS ALONG TIME AND I DIDNT KNOW! .HE ALMOST DIED HIS COCAINE WAS LOADED WITH POISION AND HE WAS IN CRITUCIAL CARE ,HE ALMOST DIED .FOR MONTHS AFTER HE KEPT RELASPING OVER AND OVER ,HIS MOM AND DAD WERE ALL TO PIECES ,,.AND I HAD TO TELL THEM IT WAS TIME FOR TOUGH LOVE ,BECAUSE AS LONG AS WE FELT SORRY FOR HIM AND WE ALL STUCK BY HIM,HE JUST KEPT USING, HE EVEN MADE THE REMARK, HE COMES HOME TO ME ,BECAUSE HE GETS SCARED .OK HIS FAMILY TOLD HIM IF HE DIDNT GET HELP THEY WERE MOVING AWAY! AND I TOLD HIM I WAS LEAVING ,BUT TO MAKE A LONG STORY SHORT ,THEY DO HAVE TO WANT HELP ,THEY HAVE TO SEE WHERE THEY ARE HEADED ,MY HUSBAND WRECKED HIS TRUCK A COMPANY TRUCK ,BECAUSE HE WAS ON DRUGS AND LOST HIS JOB AND I LEFT HIM ."""NOW HE IS IN REHAB ""AND HAS BEEN CLEAN LONG ENOUGH I THING HE IS GOING TO BE OK .BUT SEE HE HAS TO LOOSE ALOT TO STOP .EXAMPLE ...DONT FIX HIS PROBLEMS IF HE OWES MONEY DONT FIX IT ,HE HAS TO HAVE TOUGH LOVE FROM HIS FAMILY TO GET TO THE POINT OF REALIZING HE NEEDS HELP .PRAYER AND LOTS OF IT .I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU ALL ,AND YOU ARE NOT ALONE .YOU CAN GET ON SITES TO HELP HIM ONLINE EVEN THE REHAB MEETINGS ARE ONLINE .GOD BLESS
2006-10-06 12:38:32 · answer #8 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take them 2 a drug program
2006-10-06 12:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
now in days everybody is
2006-10-06 12:18:16 · answer #10 · answered by Oscar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋