When I first introduced my littlest sister to my husband (at the time we just started dating) everything seemed to go well, Until that fateful evening. That first night, my sisters (I have another sister who gets along well with my husband as she and him respect eachother and not cross boarders when they interact and I feel no problem with him complimenting her and calling her beautiful in any way because it comes from a solid place as she is beautiful) my littlest sister (the one who took it upon herself to flirt with my husband and my other sisters boyfreind =( and him were "playing games" as he now refers to the incident, as it took him very long for him to admit! there were ALOT of small talks between them, her giving him the eye bat to appear mysterious and he fell for it..it dragged on through his encounters with her. He treats her the way he treats me and it feels awkward. When I brought it up to him when it first took place he called me insecure but the thing is I wasn't.
2006-10-06 11:58:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
no. its not worth a divorce.
2006-10-06 12:01:40 · answer #1 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can't say for sure either way. I have never met anyone involved. Also, there are always two sides to every story. What I can say is that I was married for 9 years to someone who was very insecure and wouldn't let me even interract with the female species or I would be accused of flirting. Let me tell you...it is NO FUN to be accused of flirting when you are not! It really tends to cool off the relationship and causes many problems.
I would suggest either or a combination of the following: 1) Take a good hard, deep look in the mirror to tell whether or not you have insecurities that might be hindering the relationship. 2) Stop hanging around your flirtatious family (if they really truly are). 3) Talk to a counselor.
It really irritates me that people feel they can just throw in the towel just because they assume, have a hunch, or even accuse someone of complimenting or even mildly flirting. People divorce for the stupidest reasons these days. It is like they go into it thinking, "if it doesn't work out, I will just divorce."
2006-10-06 19:10:34 · answer #2 · answered by Noname W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your sister has issues if she is flirting with your HUSBAND. I think you need to give your husband an ultimatum. Tell him he needs to stop acting that way around your sister because it makes you feel uncomfortable, awkward, and unloved. If he continues to call you insecure, something is going on. If it really gets to be a bad situation, maybe you and your husband need to move away from your sister. If he says no, you may have to start to consider the divorce thing. Pray about this, and God will help you.
2006-10-06 19:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Faith C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's just flirting and "nothing" physical has happened then no divorce is warranted. However, he should respect your feeling and set up boundaries with your sister that you are comfortable with. You should also talk to your sister. She has some insecurities within herself or she wouldn't need that attention from other's people's significant others. You may also want to talk to your parents this may encourage your little sister to realize she is hurting you and to respect your position as your husbands wife.
Good Luck!
2006-10-06 19:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not being insecure, he crossed the border with your sister and that's wrong!! There isn't a reason to get divorced unless he keeps doing it, but he did do wrong and you should tell him to stop.
2006-10-06 19:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you catch them actually doing "it", don't jump to conclusions. I have to admit, I'm a SUPER flirt with my wife's sister. I will NEVER cross the line. That's my commitment and my wife believes in me.
2006-10-06 19:03:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to your sister,it sounds to me that she has insecurity problems and gets ego bursts by flirting with other peoples men.As for your husband unless he's sleeping w/her no,it's not worth a divorce.Talk w/him and her together and possible counseling.
2006-10-06 19:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by holliela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not worth a divorce, it's worth a good long talk and maybe some counselling.
2006-10-06 19:03:08 · answer #8 · answered by Chef G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your sister crossed the line, but you can not divorce her... I would not blame him solely... you need to have a serious one on two with them.... tell them both that this needs to stop... you are his wife and she is a sister-in-law.... if it does not... you need to ask yourself are you happy with him and want to remain married... if not file for a divorce...
2006-10-06 19:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he cheat?.......Divorce isn't meant to send a message, its the seperating of souls.....tell him how you feel and what the boarder should be......if he acknowledges your feelings he;'s watching out for you.....if he is combative he is watching out for him ....good luck
2006-10-06 20:01:45 · answer #10 · answered by Patrick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BIG TROUBLE!!!!!!! i wouldn't trust him or your sister. with family like that who needs enemy's!!! keep your eyes WIDE open and trust your own instinct. best of luck sweetie.
2006-10-06 19:05:53 · answer #11 · answered by ash 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋