Alright, so there has to be something wrong with me.
I'm 22, have a boyfriend of 3 years and our sex life is pretty much non existant. We probably make love 3 times a month at best. It's not him. It's me. I never want to do it. I'm NEVER in the mood. And sometimes I don't even want to be in the mood. At first he would pressure me, now he just thinks there's something wrong with him, which there's not. I'm just not into it anymore. I feel like a switch has been turned off inside of me. At the beginning of our relationship our sex life was great. Now I'm afraid I'll never want to be intimate again. What's up with me? Has this ever happend to anyone else? I'm worried for our relationship. What do I do?
2006-10-06 11:39:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I've been on the same Birth Control pills for about 5 years. I don't see how that could all of the sudden change my hormone ballance... I guess it's possible.
2006-10-06 13:45:37 · update #1
(taking big breath) -- OK, I'm neither a psychologist or social worker AND I'm a guy. Having said that, I am wondering if there is some issue you have but perhaps are not aware of, or an issue which you feel is too big or complicated to deal with. You state that it's NOT the guy it's you, so what happened when you first lost interest in sex or was it gradual? Have things changed socially, or has there been any changes physically? Have you lost or gained weight? Headaches? Nausea? There are many things to take a long look at while trying to understand what is going on in this area of your life. I would think about seeing someone and I do NOT intend to offend. There's nothing wrong with seeing an MD or PhD about this. And don't worry about it if you are able to not worry. Stress can drive any sex drive down the drain quickly. I know myself! Hope you figure this out. I wish I could heal you, but I'm just a "person off the street" with a little common sense. I'm only answering your question the best way I know how. Good luck.
2006-10-06 11:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by SuperCityRob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are married to me!
But seriously, do you take any hormonal birth control? The pill, patch, depo, anything like that? They can affect your libido. You're pretty young to be hitting that lull already - even though it can be common for married couples to go through a lull. Are you stressed out more than normal? change in workout routine, diet, weight, anything?
Lots of things can attribute - but once you get into the routine of DENYING sex, THAT becomes a habit. It's easy to get complacent and stop wanting it. It can seem like such work for little return sometimes. If there are no medical reasons, like the pill or anything that has changed, I might consider therapy. You could have some underlying resentment that has surfaced here.
2006-10-06 18:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by KB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow! I am in a very similar situation as u. I am also 22 and have been with my boyfriend for three years and are now having problems in the sex arena. Are you on anytime of birth control? I'm wondering if there is anytime of hormonal imbalance with me
2006-10-06 20:36:44 · answer #3 · answered by letmeknow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem. Most of the time it's stress and the more you have to worry about his feelings, etc. the more difficult it is to be in the mood. It helps me to try to relax by taking a long bath and making myself as sexy as possible. I think its easier to make him feel good when you feel good about yourself. But trust me I understand how hard it is when sex becomes more of a chore than a pleasure.
2006-10-07 00:36:32 · answer #4 · answered by Douglas M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe subconsciously you have sumthing against ur bf....maybe sumthing has turned u off, or he is not good.... Try to find out if its just with him that u dont wanna do it, or u are just not horny.... answer these qts and then u can take the required action
2006-10-06 18:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by dd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i empathize with you, i feel similar to that. i am 23 and have been with my boyfriend for 30 months. i remember when there were weekends where we wouldn't get dressed. i have often thought maybe it was a hormone inbalance. i plan on seeing someone about it. maybe you should too. good luck!
2006-10-06 18:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by hddiddle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try going to your doctor, you may have a hormone imbalance. It is definitely worth checking into.
2006-10-06 18:43:11 · answer #7 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea, let me know what the best answer is, cuz I'm curious myself
2006-10-06 18:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Steve 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you need a new BF. Call me :)
2006-10-06 18:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by Twilighttime 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋