We have been arguing lately and b/c of that I have not been in the mood. He says I don't perform in bed anymore. So I am determined, no matter how tired i am to give what he needs tonight. Other than that any ideas to help him relax we are both stressed out lately.
2006-10-06 11:10:21 · 11 answers · asked by Wouldn't u like to know 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Going out to dinner is not an option. We have two young kids and no one to watch them.
2006-10-06 11:13:18 · update #1
Cook a nice meal and just chat then definitely a back massage with warm oil or then lead to an all over massage it can't be beaten. good luck ps a nice bath together is also relaxing.
2006-10-06 12:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good ole BJ makes any stressed out man smile!! I hate to sound so tasteless, but it's the truth......RIGHT FELLAS?!!(;
Food for thought
Women need love to want sex.
Men need sex to feel loved.
It's nothing wrong with either, were just wired differently. Even though you two have been gang war'n lately take control and brake the tension in a big way with the best BJ he's ever had. If your not the best have a few shots of Patro'n to get rid of the gag reflex, and just do the dayum thang! He will be so surprised and satisfied at the fact that you just made his toes curl, and eyes roll in the back of his head. Now he might go to sleep for a minute after this mind blowing BJ, but when he wakes up I'm sure he'll lay some real good ''pipe'' to say Thank you, and I love you Babe!!
More food for thought: Don't hold back from your husband sexually. There are literally millions of whores out here who thrive on fu*king up your marriage, give your husband 250% in the bedroom.
''Marriage is honerable by God, and the marital bed is UNDEFILED'' Meaning get ya freak on, God's okay with it!!
2006-10-06 18:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by NURSING FOR LIFE!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the kids are in bed...perhaps grab a movie that both of you might enjoy and put it on. Not porn either for those knuckleheads who think porn and sex is the cure-all for all fights. It ain't.
However madam, as I was saying. Movie and then sit and snuggle up to him. Once the kids are assuredly asleep then start caressing slowly. If he's not a schmuck he'll respond. Do it slowly and quietly. When it gets to be unbearable for the both of you wander down the hall to the bedroom. I would suggest that once you know he isn't going to get up off the couch you'd have lit a candle or two (no more than that) in the bedroom. Now when he walks in with you....it's perfect. You can figure the rest out.
There will be two fatal drawbacks to this plan however. In the middle of unbridled, electrifying, panting and groaning passion....the kid walks in the room and wants to get in bed with you because he had a nightmare or needs a glass of water and has been calling you for the past 10 minutes.
Or....hubby will give you a nudge and say "Goddammit I'm trying to watch the movie huh?" Don't be offended. This is a man's way of letting you know he's still pissed. No man turns down sex. He'll be over it tomorrow. We just are being idiots. Would you expect any less hun? You've been married for awhile and have two kids. You know him better than anyone.
2006-10-06 18:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the kids to sleep.....get the bedroom set up nicely. Get the candles.....sexy sheets (satin ones are inexpensive at Walmart) and get some sexy lingerie, and put on the stilettos. If you don't have a chair in the bedroom, get one out of the kitchen and set it up near the bed. Tell him to give you how ever much time you think you'll need to set things up the way you want them....and leave a scarf or something out there with him, tell him to come to the door, but tie it around his eyes like a blind fold before he knocks.
Open the door let him in.....undress him.....giving him teasing kisses, strokes, etc......sit him in the chair, and tie his wrists up to the chair with silky scarves (if he's willing).
Put on some music......be his private stripper. Shake it, pop that thang, and make it good to him. Give a lap dance, get him all hot and bothered......then get back on the bed and give him a tease show. I bet he'll be like the incredible hulk with superhuman strenghth and break out of the scarves....
I did the same thing with/for my husband.......and BOY did he put it on me that night!!!!!! I STILL look back on that night and shiver!!!
Good luck, and work it on out! =)
2006-10-06 19:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by lilac b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes not home you should leave little clues around the house like one on the door saying something like im not in the kitchen.... then another clue somewere till it leads to the bedroom were you will be naked. on one clue you should mention something about being naked! he will be all excited. You should be sure hes in the mood tho, You never know
2006-10-06 18:15:42 · answer #5 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take him out to dinner to his favorite place, give him a massage when you get home, make sure you have bought lingerie that you know he will love, and try something new in the bedroom.
2006-10-06 18:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jul M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cook Dinner and a back massage for starters.
2006-10-06 18:11:56 · answer #7 · answered by BORED AT WORK 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a spa or hotel and do a couples bath - very intimate and relaxing.
2006-10-06 18:26:42 · answer #8 · answered by M Y 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with sam
2006-10-06 18:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by SavvyGrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all seriousness: what ~Sam~ said.
2006-10-06 18:17:23 · answer #10 · answered by Leroy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋