What should I do if they ask to see/go to where I work? They know I'm gay but don't acknowledge it or want to hear anything about it....
2006-10-06 10:52:44 · 23 answers · asked by Maciej 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If I worked at a club, gay or straight, I wouldn't take my parents there. Its just a job, not something to show off as if it were your chosen career.
Tell them you're a bartender and leave it at that. It's just a place to make some $$ while you do other stuff. They will understand.
If you're having trouble telling them you're gay, that's a completely different issue. Don't 'surprise' them by having them show up at your rainbow flag covered place of employment. It's not a good way to come out, I assure you.
Give it time, if you need to. Take your time, no need to rush. Just remember that the truth will set you free. Really, it will.
2006-10-06 11:06:18 · answer #1 · answered by Todd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You only have two options here: Tell the truth or lie...
Telling the truth might create an awkward moment (but I certainly advise you tell them before and have the time to talk about it)
Lying by pretending it is a special evening (you know Tea dance or whatever comes to your mind) and that other nights it is a regular boring club full of boring str8 ppl : )
Your choice... the courageous way would ne the first one...
2006-10-06 19:53:08 · answer #2 · answered by Arnaud v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So take them and let them have a good time...warn them that the sound level is VERY high and they may not want to go...warn them that there is NO PLACE to sit and they may not want to go. IF they still want to go, then have a good time. Worse things could happen. I assume you no longer need a mommy and daddy, and this is as good a way as any to give them the hint. My mom came and visited me once, I RAN a huge Gay bar, she wanted to come and see the fun, so without any notice, she went with me, saw what was going on, and had a ball...best time she ever had in a bar! From then on, she came to visit, not to visit so much as to go to the bar and watch, enjoy, and have a good time...she drug my sister with her, gave her no warning, and they both had a ball. Good luck
2006-10-06 18:37:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
In this situation I should be honest to your parents. They already know you are gay so that helps a bit. And they don't want to hear you talking about it, so you can tell them that you didn't found it useful to tell them you work at a gaybar.
Tell them before they will visit you, otherwise they might be shocked.
good luck, I hope they are cool under it
2006-10-07 13:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by frenzie-ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I agree with the people who say you should be open and honest. Otherwise you will find yourself in similar situations over and over again with them.
However, if you are not ready for that, you can say something like, "It's just a bar, and I spend all week there. Let's go someplace more fun for all of us." This is also the truth. You are just steering them to something you all would probably like better - though for different reasons.
2006-10-06 18:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just be truthful, if they already know your gay they should mind you working at a gay club...if they do ask just tell them the truth, but i wouldnt take them there!!
2006-10-06 20:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by Allie H. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, If they waant to see where you work you had better be honest with them first. How do you think your mom wouls feel if she came to the club and then some drunk dude went down on another dude at the bar, it happens...that would be awful for your mom and possibly your dad
2006-10-06 19:40:18 · answer #7 · answered by Finally home 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't want to have anything to do with my parents if they couldn't accept my sexuality. However, that's your business.
Just tell them that it is a gay club. Let them decide if they still want to go.
2006-10-06 18:00:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.....I guess you could be truthful and just tell them you work in a gay club. If they still want to see it....take them there.
Good luck
2006-10-06 17:55:25 · answer #9 · answered by Canadian Ken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to out yourself. You actually work where you can make money and be comfortable being you. If they already know you are gay then this wont be that big a stretch for them trust me they wont want to go.
2006-10-06 18:21:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋