I am gay and have 3 straight roommates. They all say they are ok with it, but when I talk about guys I like and things I worry that it makes them uncomfortable. What would be your honest reaction?
2006-10-06 10:49:51 · 13 answers · asked by Maciej 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
I would be comfortable..I have many gay friends so it wouldn't be nothing strange to me..it's really depending on them..how do they feel..maybe you're just making yourself to think that..maybe they really aren't feeling uncomfortable..
2006-10-07 12:42:33 · answer #1 · answered by vall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This will vary, depending on the guy.
I've lived with gay men and women (I'm a straight man). I was completely comfortable. Of course, my friends used to call me "the poster boy for gay-positive" after I volunteered at a couple of Pride Parades. On the other hand, I know people who aren't comfortable with homosexuality and are uncomfortable with the fact that they aren't comfortable with it! They feel bad that they feel awkward around gay pals, so they try not to show it...
BTW, I know some gay-bashers too. No doubt, some of them will respond negatively to this question, and to you my friend. Pish off you narrow-minded buffoons.
The best thing you can do (IMHO) is keep an open dialogue with your friends. If they truely are your friends, they will adjust. Some may never approve, some will come around and be able to understand. Either way their your friends and they're on your side (unless you don't come up with your share of the rent), and they alway will be.
2006-10-06 18:06:24 · answer #2 · answered by Dim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the way you act. If you act like a flaming homosexual that parades his gayness around, then it would probably make anyone uncomfortable. However, if you acted discretely about it and didn't talk to anyone about your gay issues, then it probably would be more tolerable. I would be uncomfortable either way. Simply because I don't like roommates.
2006-10-06 17:59:53 · answer #3 · answered by descartesprotege 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I'd be comfy with a gay roommate, even if I knew with certainty he was not lusting after my buns.
Then again, I'm generally not comfortable sharing my living space with anybody, and a gay, male roommate is better than a female roommate whim *I* lusted after. (If she and I were an item, the term roommate would not apply, right?)
2006-10-06 17:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by Svartalf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a gay man and used to live with a heterosexual. We basically got along fine; occassionally he sort of shoved his lifestyle choice down my throat and wasn't always discreet about dating and stuff. I think he could have been more considerate about not ever talking about "straight" stuff in my presense (why are they all obsessed with sex?). And of course the "pushy jock" crap kinda creeped me out.........but I was able to overlook most of that. I would say take your friends at their word; if they are your friends this could be a chance to come to some kind of better understanding of each other.
2006-10-07 14:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by delighteddave 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am heterosexual, and I once had a gay roommate for a while. I worked with two young men my age. The heterosexual one was obnoxious, but the gay guy was nice, so I much preferred his company. I brought in girls, and he brought in boys. We joked about it occasionally. I was never uncomfortable with things he said. He'd discuss some guy he loved madly, and I tried to be sympathetic. I'm not one to discuss my love affairs with anyone, but if I did, he would've been the first, for he was nice.
2006-10-06 18:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by miyuki & kyojin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well the straight roomates outnumber you so it shouldn't effect their love life. Although if you talk about "effeminate" topics which in most straight men's minds means feelings you're probably upsetting them. Women deal with this all the time when they date straight men. Avoid feelings and stick to sports or what you're "doing" today.
2006-10-06 18:00:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,that is a tough question to answer.
as a christian,i would not live with a practicing gay person.
if i did,then i would be justifying (being gay).
on the other hand,if i had gay friends,i would be afraid to hurt their feelings by saying I'm uncomfortable living with them.
i would most likely find an excuse to move out.
this is just my feeling,everybody else has a different take on this.
man,you got me,i really wouldn't tell ya,i value other people's feelings very highly.
if i were you though,i wouldn't worry about it,if they haven't said anything.
just go with the flow
God Bless
2006-10-06 18:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by lifeinheavenforeever 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on the guys. It really is true that if you're comfortable with your own sexuality, you don't get all weirded out by other people's sexuality. Homophobia is about homosexuals who are afraid of themselves, and project it on to other gay people who don't share their issues.
2006-10-06 17:52:50 · answer #9 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure! You're just a guy. Who cares who you want to have sex with. That shouldnt be anyones business but yours.
2006-10-06 17:58:04 · answer #10 · answered by Will E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋