why is marriage hard? ; What makes marriage difficult?

Answer 1

Because even though u are now living as one, u are still two different people with different wants and needs. What makes it harder is if there's no communication and compromise between the couple. No one says marriage is supposed to be easy but both parties have to be willing to put in 100% of the work to make it last.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Marriage is hard because it involved two INDIVIDUALS that must learn the art of comprimise as well as communiation. For some people these are extremely difficult and in the end prove that the couple probably should never had married in the first place. One should not go into marriage without being able to communicate fully their ideas of what marriage means to them and what they will expect from the marriage including children or not, how many children, who will take care of the finances, if both parties or just one will work, what releigion if any the marriage will be based on and will raise the children as. If these can not be communicated prior to the marriage they will surely cause many problems within the marriage and could cause it's demise later on.

Answer 4

Because human beings are just animals, we are pack animals just like Dogs or Monkeys... they don't get married, they procreate but there is no marriage! Marriage is a fairy tale (look at all those Disney movies you grew up with) story that people have been telling and living... it has been adopted by religion, society and governments! However the whole point of it goes totally against what the animal traits of humans want! You want X he wants Y conflict! period! Love doesn't exist, its really a feeling of liking each other that can go away if the conflict outweighs the good times... REMAIN SINGLE! and enjoy a good relationship if it doesn't work out move on, but marriage is purely a contract between the two of you. Benefits more the women that's why men lately have been asking for prenuptial agreements just to make it fair to both parties, so don't be surprised... get Married and be miserable like everyone else! That's what they want you to do... so they don't feel alone! It's what you do right? Wrong! Bottom line you do whatever you want... good luck with your decisions as humans we're not very smart and learn by mistakes not by example!

Answer 5

Marriage is hard because;

1. You are now legally and hopefully morally committed to someone for the rest of his or her life.

2. When two people live together, they are bound to have little idiocyncrasies that drives each of them up the wall. Although you may not ever like them you get used to them as long as they aren't annying, disgusting or disrespectful towards you.

3. You have temptations all of the time. Only the better person advoids them. If you DO fall into that pit...you know you run the risk of having an angry and very hurt spouse.

4. Which leads me to the next...communication. You have to be able to talk openly with one another. You have to be able to make concessions with each other. You have to learn that as much as it galls either of you at times...into everyone's life alittle sh*t must be eaten. Especially if YOU were wrong or at fault.

5. You have a lifestyle now that pretty much revolves around one another. None of this "Girls/Boys night out" crap once a month. This seems to be especially hard for men.

6. People here say " we have seperate bank accounts" or "I do this and this and he/she does nothing". Well...marriage isn't 50/50. It's 100/100. You both pull your own weight. You both should be working or if the female is at home with the kids...the house chores. None of this coming home from work and expecting dinner on the table each night, not helping wash, feed, change kids diapers crap. Your spouse will appreciate any little thing you do that eases their burden. people are selfish and seem to ignore this.

7. Finally....marriage is hard and people quit when it becomes that way...which is pretty damn quick. Divorce has become too easy now. People would rather throw away their DVD players, their microwaves and their marriage when it doesn't work anymore. Marriage is a workable and fixable commodity. Most people can't be bothered. Which means...you never really loved one another to begin with (or at least one of you didn't) and you refuse to take the steps to amend that.

Answer 6

Marriage itself is not hard.
What makes marriage difficult is when it is hard and or extremely difficult (for a lot of people) to compromise ones feelings or even to simply (and wholeheartidly) adapt/accomodate to someone elses different point of views/ beliefs.
Also , I think, the two people involved should fully be aware and ready to face dissapointments with a very forgiving heart and state of mind.

Answer 7

Marriage is actually not hard when you deny your own selfish desires and realize that it is a partnership of give and take. Yes, there are difficult times with trials and temptations but with any aspect of life, it is how you respond during the hard times. It is during these times that your character is refined and makes you who you are... If you just change your perspective on feeling that it is difficult and find JOY in all aspects of it, you will realize that you will have a very successful marriage. don't give up...keep trying.

Answer 8

Anytime you try to have 2 people together there's going to be conflict. When you grew up, didn't you have conflicts with your parents or siblings? Don't you have conflicts with you best friend when you spend a girls weekend together? Why should marriage be any different? No 2 people are always going to agree or get along. What specifically makes it hard? Well, trust, finances, stress, careers ect.

Answer 9

It doesn't have to be hard but each person has to be willing to listen to the other without judgement or reading their own agenda into what is being said. And there should be a level of communication between partners where they can say the absolute truth to each other and there be no animosity and the level of trust is such that they are both safe in being totally open with each other all the time. I can honestly say my husband and I have that kind of relationship and I couldn't imagine life without him hes my best friend

Answer 10

Living with another person and trying to keep that person happy is the hard part. You have to find ways to communicate and not lose your temper. You always have to remember that it takes two people to make a marriage but only one to ruin it.