I have been married 2 yrs. now. me and my husband dated 2 yrs. before we were married. We have always had a good sex life up until recently. He doesn't seem interested in sex anymore. Ive also noticed he masturbates more often. He acts like he's scared to even kiss me b/c he thinks im going to want sex! For instance last night he was falling asleep on the chair and i got him up and asked him if he wanted to go to bed. Well, to make a long story short he didn't want to go to bed b/c he thought i wanted sex. He say's its gotten routine and old. What i don't understand though is he has no prob masturbating. I know he's not cheating on me for a fact. his sis came over a month ago and he got one of his old friends # from her. Well, i found it and hid it and he made me give it to him! hes always saying how big her boobs are 7 how he would have sex with her if we wasn't married. i don't know if he's not interested or if i dont turn him on. What do u think?
2006-10-06 10:09:00 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
and sometimes when i perform fellatio it goes limp or doesn't get erect when it has never done that before
2006-10-06 10:12:51 · update #1
All he does is go to work and come home. he works with my dad so i know he wouldnt do it at work. ive been keeping an eye on my phone bill and he hasn't called her...yet.
2006-10-06 10:55:05 · update #2
i am married and have been together with my hubby for as long as you have been with yours.there are always ups and downs in marriage but this seems a little more complicated.he has crossed the line over in to being disrespectful to you and your feelings by talking basically about cheating on you in not so many words.it could be you have hurt him in some manner and he is trying to get back at you by hurting your feelings.if that is not the case and you feel that you have done nothing to warrent this kind of torture on your emotions.he may be going through some stuff with his body.men go through hormone changes and depression just like women do and it causes them to act out in a negative manner.if this also is not the case it sounds like he didnt know what he getting into when he married anyone he may just have realized that marriage is not something he was or is ready for.in this case sit down and talk to him and ask him as a women you know when your husband doesnt love you or want you anymore follow that instinct and follow through accordanally.just please dont put yourself through chasing after him if he doesnt want to be with you cut your ties and find someone who really loves you while your still young and will take marriage seriously.good luck sweetheart im so sorry your going through this.
2006-10-06 10:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by shanadam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he is being very disrespectful telling you how big some womans boobs are. Sounds as though your husband became lazy and would rather do the masterbating thing instead of having sex. It is much easier for him. You can try to add some spice into your love making so it does not become so hum drum. Do not blame yourself though he needs to find other ways as well. It is normal to not be as interested in sex as much as the couple use to be. It dies down some in every marriage. Some more then others. You might want to see if your husband is addicted to porn because that might be the whole root of the problem.
2006-10-06 17:15:13 · answer #2 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough question to answer... There could be many reasons for his lack of interest. Do you have children, or was something said about having children? This could be a mood killer on his part. Has he pulled away from you in other ways besides sexually? Is there any underlying issues that both of you need to resolve? His he unaccounted for any time of the day?
I have been married for 10+ years, my husband and I have an open line of communication between us. We have worked really hard to keep this open. Even after 10 years, it is not always easy. If you need to email me.
2006-10-06 17:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by wallcritter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a sex shop and buy lubricants, jelly, edible candy etc. etc
Spice it up a nothc maybe that's what he needs. Great suggestion- buy only push up bras to make your boobs appear bigger. Are you open during sex?? some guys loose interest too because women aer not willing to try certain things. He shouldn't make sexual comments about his so called friend because that jsut means he's disrespecting you. It sounds like he could be talking to her on the phone maybe. You should spy on him when he's on the phone- he's probably talking to her. Another thig- do your hair different put on some cute outfits to go to sleep in it always works!! since he's into watching porn- watch it with him it's fun!! I've been married for 12 years and never tried it and trust me- it's fun! besides- he married you for a reason
2006-10-06 17:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is telling the truth about the phone number. Because he likes to masterbate....watch his pattern now after he has the phone number. bet he still chokes his chicken. he needs some time at a sex therispt , for sure. Have you tried getting into or doing all that for him? other than the counseling , having that as part of the sex in your married life , I am at a loss for words. Good luck honey may god bless ya!
2006-10-06 17:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is soooo not interested in you anymore and that is not fuuuuunny!!! He might even hate you, but is afraid of telling you. He may never tell the truth. Get a divorce and get a new man who will apreciate you for who you are. Do not waste your time staying with a man that doesnt want you and who is interested in #7 cup size.
2006-10-06 17:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by b.s. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to talk to him about his job.
Problems at work can diminish a man's confidence and interest in sex. Since you didn't say anything about that, you may not have shown sufficient interest in his work life to know what the story is there.
It's not that it's routine. Something changed, and it probably relates to his self-image as it relates to his work.
2006-10-06 17:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by open4one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very disrespectful for your husband to make such a comment about his old friend. He married you for who/what you are he choose you! If hes not intrested in making love something is wrong in that relationship, you should both sit and have a face to face conversation about it, it wouldnt be fair form him to waste your time if hes not intrested in being in a relationship with you. Good luck
2006-10-06 17:14:44 · answer #8 · answered by Juliet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is an alcoholic, that explains alot. Limp noodle, little to no interest, wears out quickly....
If not he is cheating on you.
I know because I have had both.
An alcoholic boyfriend and a cheating husband.
2006-10-06 17:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wants something else. I am still married working on a divorce. More or less what happened to me. Good luck girl!
2006-10-06 17:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋