My boyfriend has a female friend. They stopped speaking a few months ago because she told her boyfriend that things were going on between her and my boyfriend, just to get rid of him. This obviously caused a big agument and her boyfriend wanted to fight my boyfriend. Anyway they stopped speaking because of this. I wasn't too keen on her then anyway, because when me and my boyfriend were going through problems she said she wanted to punch me up. She called him yesterday after all those months and basically said she misses him and she feels my boyfriend used the situation with her boyfriend as an excuse to stop speaking to her because he was under presssure from me to not speak to her. I then told him I was uncomfortable about this and he said that I'm being selfish. I told him I didnt want him to talk to her so he said the relationship was over.
It's a very long story but I just need to know if I'm over reacting. Please help!!!
2006-10-06 10:06:06 · 6 answers · asked by Den 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The other girl seems to act a bit possessive, but that is no reason to doubt your bf, from his side it probably is a pure friendship. You can't ask your bf to ban his friends because of you, that really is selfish and it's also like an open challenge for him either to bend under your will or break up.
2006-10-06 10:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my honest opinion, yes you are. i have very close friends who are guys, one in particular, he is going through some really emotional stuff at the moment and he takes it out on me because i am the closest person to him, but i miss him when we dont talk for those few days when he is angry.
what i am saying is guys and girls can be friends and have an arguement and miss each other and then be friends again. why is that a problem? he might miss having her around.
good friends are hard to come by and if he classes her as a good friend then you should want them to be friends, especially if he has missed having her in his life.
everyone makes mistakes and everyone deserves a second chance, but it is not for you to decide whether he gives her that second chance or not, that is his decision!
are you sure you are not jealous of there relationship?!
2006-10-06 17:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
By the sounds of it, if he ended the relationship over something so petty, he wasnt right for you anyway. I dont think you were overreacting, i guess it depends on how you approached him.
Not only had this girl threatened to hurt you, but she had no business interfering in your relationship or using your boyfriend as a catalyst to get rid of her own. This in itself suggests that she has no morals and is out to get what she wants, no matter who she hurts.
In my opinion, you were right to be concerned- as what kind of person threatens to hurt you, if things werent going very well between your ex boyfriend and yourself?
This leads me to believe that perhaps there was more to the eye so to speak-If she was so quick to jump to his defence in a personal argument between you and your ex boyfriend-then this suggests to me, that she had feelings for him. Or perhaps her intention, was to break up your relationsjip-as she knew that you would ask your ex boyfriend to stop speaking to her.
Which he didnot...which leads me to believe that perhaps he felt the same way about her, and he was just playing on this. Why else would he dump you over someone like that?
Surely he would have seen her for her true colours otherwise.
To be honest you are better off without them both-you dont need some troublemaker involving herself in your relationships, and at the same time, you dont need a boyfriend that wont respect your feelings, despite someone threatening to hurt you.
Donot go back to him and cut him out of your life, fnd someone that deserves you and likewise.
They are better off as scum together, which i suspect is their intention.
Take it from someone who knows!
I hope this helps xx
2006-10-06 17:18:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
break free from it all,you dont need the hassles, find some1 else, hes the one being sellfish x
2006-10-06 17:21:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are friends, sad to think that men and woman cannot be good friends without getting in trouble from a wife, boyfriend, husband or girlfriend,,
2006-10-06 17:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by rich2481 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
just friends
2006-10-07 03:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋