What's the most efficient and least painful way of divorcing?

Question

Is there a box to tick to say you kinda grew apart or one that says actually should never have got married in the first place! Would like to make it as pain free as there are children involved, access not a problem he's a good dad, child support I trust later he will sort out too.

Answer 1

you can separate and after two years of separation get a divorce.you have to show evidence that you have separated and don't have to go to see a lawyer to separate. just when you divorce. so long as you have a agreement for him to pay for children each week or month no need to involve lawyer. but if there is a problem please go to see a lawyer if he does not pay for children. he sounds great so hopefully you won't have that problem.
please go to citizen advice or lawyer to comfirm. you must have good grounds for divorce either infadelity or unreasonable behaviour, for unreasonable behaviour you have to give reasons dates and times. for example itimacy is low or lack of affection. not sleeping together or not being socialable with you.he does not spend time with you. but the courts may not accept this as proof of breakdown of marriage. also he will have to admit that this is true. please ask for legal advice. generally the courts except as unreasonable behavior as person being abusive or lazy and won't go to work. but you don't have that problem. you and your husband have grown apart and stop being intermate. you want to keep it civilized and the best way is just go for separation and after two years the divorce is easy and quicker and less painful. the courts grant the divorce because of the two years separation. all the best for the fulture!!

Answer 2

Don't get married in the first place. Seriously though it all depends on the people involved as to weather or not you can keep it amicable. My first divorce was absolutely brilliant in that we sat down, talked about our lack of love for each other and decided between us as to who had what. The only problem was actually getting the courts to agree to a divorce as we had both been faithful, there was no violence from either of us but we had simply just grown apart after almost 13 years. The second was a nightmare as she tried to take me for every penny I had despite the fact that I was the sole breadwinner and she did not work one single day earning a wage. Eventually after the solicitors had got their claws into the savings we both lost about £7000.00p each. Had she accepted my offer which was a 50-50 split of everything and had not contested the divorce we would both have benefited financially. As I said before it all depends on the people involve and if you can agree on almost everything then just let the solicitors deal with the actual court process. Good luck to you both.

Answer 3

As of yet, there isn't a 'no fault' divorce in the UK.

It all depends on if he is willing not to contest a divorce. The quickest divorce is either by one of you listing items of 'unreasonable behaviour' for the other, and the other agreeing not to contest whatever they have declared. OR - one of you admitting to adultery (or just saying it happened, even to get the marriage over) - OR to get the marriage annulled.

In the UK, by far the quickest, easiest and cheapest is by using quickie-divorce
http://www.quickie-divorce.com/ OR
http://www.quickedivorce.co.uk/
I cant remember which one I used (3 yrs ago) so check them both out carefully, but it was an absolute breeze (given a very difficult circumstance). Much much cheaper and quicker than a high-street solicitor.

But remember, it all depends on whether or not he is willing and able to agree to divorce as quickly and painlessly as possible (though of course, there WILL be lots of pain - just that neither of you need to prolong it if you can be mature enough). Good luck.

Answer 4

No easy set answer to this however if you are both in agreement that the marriages is over for good and you have both talked it through properly as to why it failed. In other words you both know where it went wrong,that there is nothing that can be done to save it and no going back and that you both understand, acknowledge everything then moving on will be easier without blame or baggage.
It takes two years of separation when the circumstances are irreversible brake up with no one involved. You have to go to a solicitor an apply for a divorce to do this as soon as you do seperate.
As for the children they are going to find this hard and the only way it will make things easier is if you both sit down and talk to them as honest and as open as you can about what is happening depending on age of course. They will need to know that although mom and dad do not love one another anymore you both love each and every one of them. You will also have to make it clear on where they live, access how it will work remember they will need the facts to be made to feel secure that they are not being abandoned by one of you.
If you and your husband can remain friends keep it amicable and not rubbish one another off to the children things will be ok.
I hope it all works out for you all

Answer 5

There are no easy divorces, just try and not argue in front the of the children, never tell the children that their father is bad. Let them decide themselves who was to blame, if there is any blame.

Your main concern is the welfare of your children, contact the CSA immediately, no matter how good a Dad he has been. Only other bit of advice is beware of lawyers, they will put each of you at each other like wild dogs, if they get the chance. But, speak to a councellor, they can help.

Good luck.

Answer 6

if you've been separated for 2 years & you show the judge that the children wont suffer you'll get your divorce through with minimum fuss

suggest you both go see solicitor

Answer 7

Ask for a no contest divorce. Might be tough though, kids are involved. I wouldn't trust him if I were you.

Answer 8

The sudden and unexplained disappearance of a spouse.

The people who did Jimmy Hoffa had it down pat. Case closed.

Answer 9

My divorce started off very amicable until we got solicitors involved & it went down hill from there, we stopped comunicating & things went from bad to worse.

Answer 10

there is no efficient painlessway to divorce but you sound as if it may be easy if thats what you really want then go fo it but remeber what they say you dont realise what you have until its gone take from me i know.