Does It Mean Your Husband Is Cheating When He Can't Sleep?

Question

My husband has always had trouble sleeping but the past year it has gotten worse. Last summer I was talking to a girl I worked with telling her my problems which I shouldn't have because since then my mind has been all bent. Last summer as soon as I would lay down my husband would roll and kick his feet I would get up and go to the couch. It got on my nerves and deel inside something told me he didn't want me to sleep with him the girl I worked with said he is getting it (sex) somewhere else. This summer he has had trouble sleeping. I have stayed up three hours to give him time to sleep and sometimes I am able to sleep with him cause he is sleeping but something goes off in my head when he can't sleep that he don't love me and he doesn't want me to sleep with him. We was having sex every other weekend now maybe three times a month. We work all the time and are tired a lot. He still wants to have sex with me though. I hope he isn't cheating. How do I get these thoughts out of my head?

I have always been a really jealous person. We have been married for 8 years.

I have talked to my husband about my feelings. I just told him I believe he's
doing this on purpose not being able to sleep and he gets really angry at me. He told me last night he works hard to pay the bills and has trouble sleeping. I am worried too cause we don't have sex as often as we used to.

Answer 1

That's a load of bs. It doesn't mean he's having an affair. Where did your friend get that idea? There are many reasons why someone would have a sleeping disorder. Maybe he has insomnia. Maybe he's depressed or stressed out about something at work. Before u jump to conclusions, why don't u communicate with him and find out the root cause of his sleeping disorder. He may need to see a doctor for it.

Answer 2

OK, I think you're imagining things big time. It sounds to me like he has insomnia - nothing more, nothing less. As a chronic insomniac myself, I have to tell you that it can be debilitating, and one has to find workarounds to get the sleep one needs. For as far back as I remember myself, I could not get a good night's sleep; I still can't. I went to doctors, and they all want to give me sleep medication, but I've been resisting it so far, because I know that once I start taking it, there will be no way back - and I can't imagine this stuff is all that good for you. So, I just try to get my sleep any way I can... which, unfortunately, means that my husband and I sleep in different rooms; he snores a lot, and I simply can't deal with it. Believe me - cheating is the LAST thing on my mind; I just wish I was able to sleep like all normal people.

Ask your husband to see a doctor; perhaps they'll be able to help. I figured, once I have kids, I will probably end up going on a sleep medicine of some sort. I just don't want to be taking any of this stuff before or during being pregnant.

Answer 3

Definitely not!
The girl you worked with definitely gave you some bad advice.
It's hard to have the time and energy to have sex or special events when you are both working so hard and are tired all the time.
Every time what she said pops into your head say 'NO' in your head or outloud if you're absolutely sure you are alone.
Then think about some wonderful loving thing your husband has done for you. Every time her words come back think about something you love about your husband and are thank-ful for.
Make a list of all the wonderful things he does and is and everytime it comes back check your list. Add to it each time something wonderful and new happens between you, or you remember something from long ago.
Also, regularly take the time to tell your husband you love him.

Answer 4

I really do not believe that just because he is not sleeping well means exactly that he is having an affair. There must be other things that is making you think he is having an affair besides his lack of sleep. Usually when a woman thinks her husband is having an affair (unless she is just a controlling nut) then most likely he is having one. Men lose sleep mostly because of stress like paying bills and other things maybe his job. You might want to ask him why he is having trouble sleeping. Sounds like you friend cannot stand the fact that you are married and wants to stir up trouble for you. You might want to see what intentions your friend is having.

Answer 5

oh honey , you are most likely letting your mind run away from you. How many nights aweek out is he out an about? How many hours are you all apart from the other? My hubby kicks and turns and grunts all night. but I know where he is through the day {at work} paycheck shows it. so how much free time does he have? enough to go have an affair? does this help you think things are maybe not as they seem? hope so! good luck!

Answer 6

i hope you don't be worry much, i think he just over tired or maybe he stressed of something, so he can't sleep night. my husband also like this, although i very worry, but i;ll discuss the problem with he, so i can understanding your felling. try your best to help he disolve theproblem by chatting, tell to your husband, watever he do what, you will stay behind he and give he the biggest support.

Answer 7

Good Lord! Settle down honey. Maybe he just has a case of restless leg syndrome or something. Sit down with him and talk to him about the way you feel and about your fears. I don't understand why people can't just talk about the way the feel. How do you keep that all bottled up?

Answer 8

Maybe the problem is that you "have always been a jealous person". Jealous is a sickness. Work on that. Then talk to your husband. But do it in that order.

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Answer 9

Another Idiotic Bi-Polar Question...

Answer 10

Trust your intuition! It is almost always right! Do what you can to find out so you can put your mind at ease, otherwise you'll go crazy.
I wish you luck!