Well,I've been friends with this guy since I was 3!-I'm 15 now,by the way.I don't wanna stop being friends,but he asked me out last year TWICE!,and this year he asked me out once.I want him 2 understand that I only wanna be friends.He's 2 touchy with me.It makes me unconfortable,but I don't wanna tell him 2 stop,cuz I'm afraid he'll get mad at me,and I know u're thinking,"Well,then he's no real friend.",but I don't want this guy mad at me.Y can't he understand that I just want friendship?
2006-10-06 09:40:19 · 31 answers · asked by Abby 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i just wanna say thanks to all the people that answered my question.you took it seriously,instead of making a joke out of it.im gonna wait a little while longer before i choose whose answer was the best,cause i wanna see what else some other people will put.
thanks.
<3 abby <3
2006-10-06 18:10:06 · update #1
yuggy,i get told duh ebough without your help.you had a shitty answer,too. :)
2006-10-06 18:11:07 · update #2
abby abby abby, first thing you need to do is just chill hun.ok first things first. He does not have the right to TOUCH YOU! thats the "no zone" you need to make that very clear to him, the very next time he touches you., and just flat out let him know you treasure your Friendship with him, but You are not ready to be dating Anybody! if he gets mad so what, he wasn't your friend anyway. if hes truly your friend, he'll understand and be cool with it good luck hun
2006-10-06 09:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really need to sit down and have a heafrt to heart talk with him. Tell him how much you really treasure his friendship and always want to have his friendship. But if you two were to date and then eventually break up it would ruin a life long friendship that may never recover. If you really arent attracted to him, dont tell him that, it may make him feel bad and then be mad at you. I finally became best friends with the woman I have loved for many years. She didnt feel the same but we now have the best friendship either of us have ever had. Just let him know how you feel, and that you just dont want to lose him as a friend.
2006-10-06 09:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by cabjr1961 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You're going to have to come to the realization that you may make him mad, at which point you have to decide which choice you want to make. Allow him to continue on as he's doing but not make him mad, or tell him firmly, strongly without any room for misunderstandings how you feel and risk making him mad.
Either way you run a risk, you have to decide which risk you're willing to take.
Sometimes in life there are no easy answers or easy choices. At times like that it's up to you to make the decision on what you're willing to accept or live with. A guy who won't leave you alone or possibly angering and maybe losing a friend.
2006-10-06 10:02:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tower of T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You tell him that you just want to be freinds, in the same way that he's friends with the guys. Tell him if he can't repect that then then maybe you all shouldn't hang out. For heavens sake, DO NOT do anything that could in anyway signal otherwise. The teen male always holds on to that hope that you have changed your mind. Hang in there and don't let ANY guy talk you into anything until you are married
God Bless
2006-10-06 09:48:16 · answer #4 · answered by chuck3011 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the relationship might want to end at that very second. yet, i'd not tell all and sundry what he did. If i had to be with someone who wore a bra, i'd be with a lady and not in any respect a guy.
2016-12-04 08:31:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out with him. If your really good friends think of how close you'll be together. and dont be scared if you break up your friendship is ruined, (contrary to what people say). Trust me, i knew a girl for a LOOONG time b4 we decided to date 4 a while and we broke up. still good friends. But i guess if you honestly cannot bring yourself to date him, idk you cant change the way he feels. Just try to accept he likes you. As far as the touching, if hes just like touchin your arm or giving u hugs or w/e i dont really see why thats a big deal but if hes like touching your butt and stuff like that, just ask him to stop and tell him that your not mad. He wont be mad, he'll just feel like he's made u upset. so make him understand your cool after u ask him to stop.
2006-10-06 09:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by chrishenderson08 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Abby,
Just tell your friend that you have grown up with him and you feel uncomfortable when he touches you, the reason being is that all the time you have known him, he seems more like a brother to you than boyfriend material. Tell him he is your best friend and you don't want to lose his friendship because it means so much to you. But that you are just not interested in dating him.
2006-10-06 09:45:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it sounds like he Fancy's u really bad and it looks like he's been waiting for ages to ask u. there must have been a hidden agenda underneath Ur friendship. i will just let him know that it's his friendship u want and that only. i know u don't wanna hurt his feelings but sometimes that's the only way to get a message across. u never know he might just get the message across ad he could lay off u a bit. who knows in the future u could be really good friends.
2006-10-06 09:45:57 · answer #8 · answered by lregan7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a hard one! You are the only one to stop the touchy stuff. If you are that uncomfortable about it you need to lay the law down & just say no I don't want that kind of relationship with you. If you loose his friendship over that it's his loss.
2006-10-06 09:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by "karma" 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him flat out how you feel. Use the next time he gets touchy feely as an opportunity to say, "That makes me really uncomfortable." That puts the ball in his court. See where the conversation goes after that.
2006-10-06 09:42:52 · answer #10 · answered by mommyofmegaboo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋