Well I havent seen my children in 4 years. (Long Story). Anyways I am appealing once again with the courts, but my son is now 19 at college, so I decided to go there and I called him. He told me to never call him. I called back and told him I was in the cafeteria and would wait a bit if he had a change of heart. Well, security escorted me out, apparently he called the father. I called him when I got home and told him I would not bother him and he knows where I am if he ever has a change of heart. Do you think he will ever change his mind???
2006-10-06 09:37:00 · 6 answers · asked by ms.mary 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Send him a letter and don't make excuses for your behavior. Just tell him flat out what happened and that you are sorry.
Send cards on holidays and birthdays. It may take years, but sooner or later most people come around.
2006-10-06 09:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the "long story" that you did not elaborate on. What happened? Why did you never put forth the effort before? (no offense) Although it does sound like you were trying through the court system. It has been my experience that the court will only completely block all contact from a parent in extreme cases. I would like to know what happened. Please explain so that people can answer the question with more information.
2006-10-06 16:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by ratpackluvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well- it depends why he doesn't wanna see you or talk to you. Did your (divorce) happen because of infidelity on your end?? depends why you divorced or separated. My parents divorced when i was 15 i''m now 28. My dad physically and emotionally abuse my mom. Then- sexually harrased me on a visit. YES OF COURSE I LOVE MY DAD but- I keep my distance from him even though he's hurt us all ahveing children outside the marriage, cheating- it goes on and on. IF you screwed up- he has a reason to not want to see you because no matter waht- us kids alway take our mohters side no matter how much **** they did or do now. Don't push him to try to get close to you. When he's ready- when you least expect it- he will look for you. Mke sure you let him know where you're at in case he wants to reach you even if it's as long as weeks, months maybe even years. Now that time has passes and i've forgiven my father- we get a long great but- i don't trust him and won't be alone in a room with him or my children. Best of luck to you and take care!
2006-10-06 16:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe, in time. time and patience is the key. meanwhile, always remember their birthdays and holidays w/cards ect...and never give up. once they see, you are really serious, maybe they will have a change in heart. it may not come, until they have children of their own. I'm a person whom, did not see my own mother for twelve years. i had a hard tI'me dealing w/her when she came back into my life w/no explanations. it hurt. im lots older now and think differently. i had to learn to forgive. time is a great healer. good luck and god bless.
2006-10-06 16:46:02 · answer #4 · answered by debo3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm sorry. I don't know what's happened in the past with your kids, but it sounds like it must have been a pretty big deal to them, or at least to the 19yo. It doesn't sound like he wants anything to do with you.
If it's a case where someone has filled their heads with bad things about you that aren't true, then maybe you'll have a chance.
2006-10-06 16:40:41 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
prolly not
2006-10-06 16:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋