I kicked my boyfriend in the balls because he cheated on me!?

Question

My boyfriend cheated on me, so I kicked him in the balls. As a result he lost a testicle!!! The kick was not that hard, I don’t know what happened! I feel so ashamed and guilty, I feel sick to my stomach. He will not press charges, but he does not want to see me again. He slept with a girl at a party because he was too drunk, he usually doesn’t drink. Will he ever forgive me? Anyone here had a similar experience? What can I do???

Answer 1

The one thing you never ever do is kick a man in the balls. No wonder he doesn't want to see you anymore. You made him into a freak.
**okay, you can kick a man in the balls if he is attacking you or trying to kill you. but that is it.

Answer 2

I can empathize with you mami. My man did the same thing and in a reaction I kicked him in his testicles very hard. He did not loose a testicle but had a lot of swelling that basically put him out of service for a long time. We stayed together for a little while but in that time things got worse and we broke up for good. We talk as friends sometimes and he confessed to me he has problems getting erections since that day? I cant of course confirm this but its what he says? He does not blame me, and says he deserved it, which he did I sorta feel too. But I feel bad about it to. Over time I have learned to forgive myself because he cause me great pain and sadness too during our relationship. You are a good person for feeling bad about it. Men who cheat are toxic and do deserve our wrath. Im sure if we could turn back time maybe we would have approched things differently, but it happened and hea going to have to live with his actions the rest of his life.

Answer 3

Although I can imagine how mad you can be when you learned that he cheated on you, YOU DID NOT DO the right thing causing him to lose some part of his body. I would be very very mad too, but what you did is more horrible than what he did to you. I'm sorry about you and him but more about him. You will go and have other boyfriends but he won't grow a new testicle. He would never forget it I think, and you have to learn to live with it. Just try to control your anger next time.

Plus, you're lucky he's not pressing charges. I sure would do if I were him.

Answer 4

I think he was wrong to cheat - cheating is never right.
Kicking people in the balls is also wrong. Unless you're defending yourself from a physical attack you have no right to attack someone...even if he cheated on you.
If you turn it around - would it be ok for a guy to hit a girl who cheated on him? Of course not.
You just don't have the right to hurt someone physically for hurting you emotionally.

Answer 5

You should have kicked him to the curb. As it is now over, let it be over. The hurt you caused him will be there the rest of his life. All you can do is forgive yourself as he most likely can never forgive you. If he does, marry him quick as he must be an awfully good guy. Don't push him if he doesn't want to see you. Give him space and time but let him know through mutual friends that you are there.

Answer 6

It might not have been right to kick him in the balls but he did cheat on you. Given that situation and if I was a girl I would have done the same thing. In my opinion if a guy cheats on a girl he better guard his nuts because if I would cheat I would expect the ex to come after my balls.

Answer 7

So according to you all if I find my girlfriend cheating on me I can kick her and that would be alright? and then lets say she looses an ovary because of the beating you would say "well she had it coming the *****!", don't you see a double standard here, if a man cheats he deserves whatever physical punishment but if the cheater is a girl ( and believe there are ) and the man takes the same course of action then he is a women batterer and probably go to jail, I think you all need to re-think your values, and yes and think he is right not wanting to see you anymore what if the remaining testicle does not work as it should and you took away the one that did, he will not be able to have a family of his own.

Answer 8

You are lucky you are not up on assault charges. You sound very insecure and violent.
Be glad you didn't kick MY son.
What do you mean lost one? Kicked it up between his shoulder-blades or it fell off or had to be removed?
Someone who cheats on you should not be assaulted. They should be abandoned immediately. He got drunk SOOOOO
he could do what he wanted and write it off as because he was "drunk." Irresponsible people do that a lot.
Do not seek forgiveness. Get away from him and let him have his life back. Leave him alone. If he wants YOU, he knows where you live.
Although I can't imagine why he would want to be with someone who kicks when she is angry and hurt. You will be angry and hurt a lot with this guy. Move on, and don't inflict yourself on another guy until you have had some counselling for managing your angry feelings and controlling your body.

Answer 9

The kick was not meant to intentionally cause him to lose a testicle. You were angry and jealous and lashed out. Although this turned out to have negative consequences perhaps you should just leave it with a sincere apology and move on. Next time something like this happens I am sure that you will have worked out a more cautious way to deflect your feelings. Maybe some anger management would be a good idea and this will help you to deal with the guilt. Remember it was an accident and forgive yourself.

Answer 10

You were both wrong. And you both need to apologize to each other. Physically harming someone for cheating is unethical and the punishment doesn't fit the crime. If he isn't pressing charges then consider that his apology. It takes a mature man to not press charges against a woman who caused you to lose a testicle (one of men's most vaulable and sensitive possessions). Never assault a man again (unless of course for defending yourself).