hey girls i have a problem-- my best friend (seriously it is a friend not me)cant stop thinking about sex after she accidently saw her parents do it---she saw a sycologists and she talked to her parents but we always have to leave the mall or wherever we are because she gets a mental picture and she cant stand it.
2006-10-06 08:34:01 · 13 answers · asked by leesh!! 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Really? Are we talking a one second look, or did she stand there for a few moments and watch, trying to figure out what was going on? I would assume that all kids have walked in on their parents at least once, and thank God mine were totally covered up and I didn't really see anything. The second I figured out what was going on, I was out of there! Tell her to let it go..........it's a normal thing for grown ups to do!
Now if she walked in and they were in all black leather with whips and chains involved, tied to the bedpost and all that jazz........that would have messed up my mind, too!
2006-10-06 08:40:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing happened in my life. the picture did stay on my mind for several days. however, in a few weeks it went away. well, there is nothing very serious u can do to make her mental condition normal once again. she is the one who has to get over it. all u can say to her is that sex is a natural thing. n every couple does it...make her feel that its as simple as ABC. and yes when she talks about it ignore the matter or change the topic...talk to her about things that do not have anything to do with boys, love and relationship. otherwise, the picture will haunt her once again. talk to her about school work, music or any other hobbies. and yes do it in an enthusiastic way so that she becomes interested in talking about them. do it as much as you can, but please avoid conversation about relationships.
one more thing. it is better if she doesn't go to any counselor and talk about it because the more she will talk about it the more this picture will stay with her. the whole thing will end up becoming a very big issue. counselors will not help her...they will simply make the issue more complicated.
2006-10-06 15:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
She has to admit it is a human normal usual bahavior of parents, and that this is how she was conceived...
She should not use it as a pretext to become the center of interest to you or others.
If she does, and when she does, just tell her it is time for her to grow up and admit the fact of sexuality between a man and a woman.
2006-10-07 18:56:17 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With time she will get over it. She just needs to keep talking to that psychologist until she gets all her emotions good and bad out about the situation. Maybe next time her parents will be a little more cautious with her in the house.
2006-10-06 15:42:42 · answer #4 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she saw her parents do it, how do you think the parents feel??? Happy, sad, angry, ashamed??? They are just loving each other. won't you be doing it, if you yourself wish to show how much you love your partner. What do you need to do is to go talk to her parents and inform them of it. They as her parents will know what is the better way to do things right. GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-10-06 15:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As Her friend you need to make her see that there was nothing wrong with that.That out of Love and sex she was made.It is
a shock to see,but there was nothing wrong there she needs
to accept that it is a normal part of life,and parents are people
too.
2006-10-06 15:49:25 · answer #6 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she needs more therapy, or something else to take her mind off of it. I think there may be a serious problem. How long ago did this happen? I guess if it was recently, maybe she just needs time.
2006-10-06 15:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by BethS 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her a walk down the lane and talk that this is a divine act granted by GOD and one day she too should be a part of it and no more worries with what she saw as it was not a determined one. hugs to her..
2006-10-06 15:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
always kids see sex for the first time with their parents. so parents should be careful
2006-10-06 15:43:10 · answer #9 · answered by evening_dewpoint 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Uggh. That is gross. Maybe a hypnotist or psycholgist can make her forget that image.
2006-10-06 15:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋