What to do about family.?

Question

I have fallen head over heals in love and we plan to marry soon. Only one problem. He had a vasectomy during his first marriage and I am only 25. I really love the two children he has but I don't know that I never want to have kids of my own. I am so torn because this man is SO amazing in every way. Sometimes that makes it worse because he makes me want to have an even bigger family with him. What in the world can I do?

Answer 1

Vasectomies can be reversed. With the right doctor who knows all about this, you can have the entire procedure reversed once again.

It will take some research and a number of doctors who will either say yes or no to this, but chances are you will find one that will say yes and know how it is done too. I suggest a specialist in this area to speed the process up.

congrats, btw.

Answer 2

You have a lot to discuss before you marry. First of all, a vasectomy can be reversed. That is one discussion you should have. You should also discuss your options, if it can't be reversed. Would you want to be artificially inseminated by a sperm donor? Do you want biological children or do you want to adopt? You're 25. Are you certain you don't want children? And if you don't right now, because of your fiance, how do you know you will feel like that in 5 years? In 10 years? Please discuss so you can make the right decision for both of you.

Answer 3

Ask him to have the vasectomy reversed. It can be sometimes, depends on how long ago it was he had it done.

I personally know of a couple who had the same problem. She married him knowing he'd had this done, and once the vows were said, she became obsessed with having her own children. ( It had been to long for his to be reversed).

Do some heart felt thinking about all of this. There's no reason you should be just happy raising his kids, when u want your own.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

You make a decision concerning your future.
1- Marry a man and know you will not have kids with him, and if you believe in "til death do us part" you will never give birth to your own child.
2- Realize that having children of your own is very important to you and unless he's willing to undergo a reversal, stop seeing him.
Those are basically your 2 options. It's your life, maybe you should wait until you're not "head over heels" but instead feeling confident and grounded before you make such an important decision.

Answer 5

Get vasectomy reversal in India.IVF (in vitro fertilization) treatment; IUI, ICSI and Laparoscopic surgery is very cheap in India. The cost is very low and the medical services are very good in India.

My cousin and her husband got their IVF treatment in India through the Forerunners Healthcare in India and is all praise for this company. She is a known case of PCOS.She is a very happy mother of a baby boy now. She just paid 2500 pounds for the full IVF treatment in India for which she was quoted 8000 pounds in private setup in UK.

Forerunners Healthcare is very famous in India. I read a lot about them in the newspapers. I have also read about a Chinese couple who planned surrogacy through the Forerunners Healthcare. They arrange financing for USA, Canadian, UK and other international patients who plan to have surgery and infertility treatment like IVF, IUI, and ICSI abroad for low price. They also have photos pasted of their International patients. You can checkout their website. There are huge cost savings. As a doctor I personally believe that surgery and treatment can be easily handled in India, as the quality of healthcare available In India is simply best in the world. The surgeons are USA/UK trained and facilities are 5 star.

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Hope this helps.