I just had a baby a little over two months ago and I can't seem to figure out how to get back into our old sexual habits. We were both really into each other, then I got pregnant. So we didn't have sex at all the last 3 months. And since she has been born we have only done it 3 times and I really want to get him back to the way it used to be. Can anyone help me out and tell me how to bring the passion back into our sex life? I had my tubes tied after the the baby was born so Help me please I really miss how it used to be. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. PLEASE HELP!
2006-10-06 07:54:48 · 15 answers · asked by Kimberly S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I thought guys wanted it all the time why is it that I want it more than him. This is my second baby and she sleeps all night long. I have a very good baby. I just don't understand why he isn't in the mood.
2006-10-06 08:14:02 · update #1
Give it time and the passion and flame will return. It's only been two months since you had your child. Congrats by the way and happy parenthood.
2006-10-06 07:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda feel your pain. When I got pregnant, we still had sex now and then, but it started to get uncomfortable. And then I know he was ready for the 6 weeks to get up. But you just follow your old routine. Some men just follow back to their regularly scheduled program, and some look at you different because of the delivery of the baby, so it might affect your sex life. But all I can tell you is to dig back in your memory crates and do what you did before as well as a lil' bit extra. Because the baby is going to occupy your time so you might need to make it count with the time you do have. Check out my question To the Fellas 4 the ladies... there's some advice from the guys.. Hope that helps.
2006-10-06 07:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. PHILlis (in training) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably got the baby blues. After having a baby your not to happy about yourself body wise. Do something for yourself. Get your nails done, new clothes, or hair done. Start feeling better about yourself. Having a baby really messes up your body in so many ways. Until you start feeling sexy about yourself this lust won't come. The man don't help either when they don't complement you after having a baby. It's like we turn into instant mommies and they don't want that. Go out treat yourself to a facial, manicure, pedicure anything. Then go out on the town with your man and enjoy. Light the fire again. I'm sure this will help. Good luck and congrats.....
2006-10-06 08:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get real, you already had sex three times and he's only 2 months old. Big Deal. First now comes your child! And then, if you have time, climb all over him, and start fooling around. Men just automatically respond. No problem!
But remember things do change after a baby is born. That's called parenthood. You need to grow up.
2006-10-06 08:09:06 · answer #4 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I remember when my hubby & I started to have sex again after my daughter was born, he was afraid he was going to hurt me. Tell him that it won't hurt. The best is when he's alseep and he wakes up to you playing with a certain part of his anatomy. Try this, let him know you are interested in having sex again. It won't take long for him to come around.
2006-10-06 08:08:23 · answer #5 · answered by Lissa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please girlfriend, you asked this same question just a little while ago. (minus the tube-tying thing), I'm the one who told u to get your tubes tied. anyway its obvious your looking for some good sex stories.
You know don't you that they have magazines at the adult store that you can purchase . Or if you IM me i suppose i can tell you what you can do to make your man hard for you again
2006-10-06 08:04:23 · answer #6 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cosmopolitan and Glamour magazines have the details. Read romances by Virginia Henley or Johanna Lindsay.
2006-10-06 07:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 22:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can go about this two different ways. 1) talk with him and try to find out whats going on. its direct, honest, and can be hurtful. 2) take the initiative! sexy underware, dressup, play games, even try something new. the only limit is your imagination!(and what he likes or doesnt like) just be careful because there could be something wrong somewhere.
2006-10-06 08:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL YOU SHOULDNT HAVE GOT YOUR TUBES TIED BUT THATS JUST MY OPINION BECAUSE WHAT IF LATER YOU DECIDE TO HAVE ANOTHER BABY? THEN WHAT ANYWAY BACK TO YOUR QUESTION YOU HAVE TO SEDUCE YOUR MAN SEXUALLY BE A REAL FREAK IN THE BED YOU FEELIN ME GIRL PUT IT ON HIM DO ALL THE THINGS YOU COULD POSSIBLY DO AND THEN LET ME KNOW WHAT HAPPENS OK ...E
2006-10-06 08:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by ellie_m1123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋