My husband and I have been TTC for 13 months now. We are currently going through testing to find out what is wrong. I am only 24 years old and my hubby is 31. We just seem to get so wound up in all the TTC stuff, that we get stressed and seem to not have fun with sex anymore. We used to be able to just get fired up at the drop of a hat, but now, we are always too exhausted and if it is not the "right time" of the month, we seem to not even make the effort anymore. I can understand when I am too tired from work or he is, but it seems like when I want to, he does not, or vice versa. Does anyone have any ideas on how me and hubby can destress and spice up our sex life? We are still TTC, but I think we need to have a little fun with it too!
2006-10-06 07:47:18 · 3 answers · asked by Danielle J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Hi there! My husband and I were TCC for 4 years and last year we went through fertility. It was very stressful (emotionally and physically). In the beginning of this year, we decided to just take a break from it all. We didn't concentrate too much on getting pregnant and when we had sex, we were more relaxed about it.
Well, I finally conceived in May and I am now 22 weeks!!! I don't want to tell you to relax because you'll always wonder, "Is this the one?" everytime you and your husband have sex. It's so hard because trying so long makes it feel like sex is a chore after a while. I think you both just need a little downtime and not think about conception so much. Don't worry, it'll happen eventually.
Good luck!
2006-10-06 08:20:04 · answer #1 · answered by JoesWifee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you, I'd take a few months off. No more TTC until the first of the year (or a date you pick.) Don't worry about when you are ovulating, use condoms if it takes away that stress of TTC. You've been trying a long time and you need time away from TTC. Let yourself be romantic and spontaneous (after you've had a week or two without sex to rest.) Meet him at the door in something sexy, or suprise him with candles and wine. Don't let the idea of a baby be part of it, sex shouldn't be work, and that is what is has become for you. Just be husband and wife for awhile, not two people trying to conceive.
2006-10-06 07:53:02 · answer #2 · answered by S. O. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget about TTC. You best bet is to just have sex every other day, so your chances of conceiving soars. When you least expect it, you will conceive! Get loose with yourselves- maybe play games, or do role play. Sex toys can also spice up a sex life. Candles and music can also trigger a romantic setting, perfect for conceiving. Enjoy sex more and stop stressing, and it will happen for you. Oh, and if you are told that you or your partner cannot have kids, keep trying because they are not always correct with that and most perople still conceive. Good luck!+
2006-10-06 08:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by LiSa B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋