should i say my past whch is really bad,latr he mght not accept me.it mght create prblm in d present,but i really love him n dnt wanna lose him.wat shall i do?
2006-10-06 07:43:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Only you are in the right position to answer this.If you feel knowing everything about you will frighten him off then you're always going to be looking over your shoulder waiting for the past to rear it's ugly head. You'd be surprised how unshockable most people are.. only a fool would believe their partner to be absolutely perfect..and perhaps, depnding on how you met etc. he may already be more aware of your past than you give him credit for. course, you could sort of tell him by saying things like..''you know i'm not the perfect whiter-than-white you seem to think i am.'' or ''if you really want to know everything about me you need to be very secure in yourself and realise that things in my past are just that and i am the person i am now because of my determination to change..and i must have changed to have won the love of a special person like you'' if he can't accept you as you are, then perhaps he's not the person for you. you need someone to love and respect you, not someone who's going to make you feel that you have to constantly apologise for a past that you can never change. I really hope that true love will triumph for you. xo
2006-10-06 07:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes as a matter of fact you should tell him . you are thinking of present and what about the future when u both will be more serious towards each other and then come to know about your secrets then ? have you thought about how bad that impact that would be on him , if you can face that position and tackle it properly then you are doing right not to tell him the truth and keeping him in dark . god help you both
2006-10-08 17:31:29 · answer #2 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dont be a mistry plz,,
dont tell him any thing onur own, bit if he asks,, dont lie,, if u tell him and he accepts u as well, it doesn t go out of mind,, so dont go to tell him all on ur own, but if there are sources thru which he may come to know,, they u should be the first to tell him, and he shouldnt know this from outside sources
that will built the trust and love for eachother.
dont ever try to play games with a man, u wil invite troubles,, be hapy with him,, and life long,
take care,, good luck, and wish u a very good relation life long
2006-10-06 07:48:56 · answer #3 · answered by Friends Forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
understanding is the matter of fact,see if u tell him the truth depending on his mood and also the reason why it happen ..if he really loves u he will not leave u ... but if he comes to know from another source it will be devasting so it is better to tell ur past as u have mentioned it as bad ....love will forget and forgive ... if he truly loves for who u r then go on with your love if not wait for a true love
2006-10-06 07:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by tamanaahamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be honesty for a relationship to exist. He deserves to know. And if he doen't accept you after you tell him, than he's not worth it. If he cares about you, then he won't mind what has happened in the past.
2006-10-06 07:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell everything that is required. but there may be a past which is already buried u need to tell that
2006-10-06 09:25:22 · answer #6 · answered by yourfreind_forlife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way........always hold stuff back and keep em guessing.
Adds to the mystery
2006-10-06 07:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not essential.
2006-10-06 14:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by skp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only what you remember.... selective memory helps
2006-10-06 07:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by Doubting Thomas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋